Pastor Sarah's ADC
Since my mother took her own life she has been steadily 'there' for us all and this has been a great comfort.
--the night of her death (2:00 am) she came to me in a dream to say she was at a party and fine. She was with other relatives who'd passed on.
--next day: she turned lights on and off. No switch was heard to click on or off. No loose light bulbs or cords either. Witnessed by our children and my husband as well as myself.
--few days later: husband was making pizza and an invisible hand tapped him on the forehead as if to say "notice me."
--our young child saw Grandma on the chesterfield sitting next to me (I am her daughter). At the same time this happened a door on a piece of furniture flew open nearby. The door was held normally tightly against the cabinet via magnets.
--while at the computer, next day, our other child field invisible hands on his shoulders as a comfort.
--phone ringing repeatedly and no one there. We just moved to a new city so it was odd that this would happen.
--cool breeze blowing over us at night just before sleep.
--a mist in the hallway that I saw at 2 am and independently our younger child also saw. In the morning we compared notes. Both saw the same thing. It was as if we saw my mother's aura around the outline of her body.
--various times, we saw out of the corner of our eyes (all four of us) we saw her standing near us.
--she saw us pack up her apartment after her death. As we were moving a stack of furniture on a dolly a picture jumped off the dolly and it shattered. Later the funeral home told us it was at the exact time she was being cremated. The picture? Of an eagle flying free by itself. The frame shattered as if it were a signal of "I'm free".
--scent of her perfume near us, especially at night.
--she fixed the backup lights on her car after we started driving it. My husband took the car to two different garages and they could not fix the problem. Then the next morning there was no longer a problem....
--our one child getting far too many 'free' coupons at a fast food place. It was as if his grandmother is still buying him treats.
--days after her death our older child bought a sweet drink at a convenience store (as often his grandmother would buy for him) and the cashier stopped working. The clerk said "Oh this hasn't happened before...Oh, just have it for free."
--same thing happened as we went to buy groceries at the local grocery store. The cashier rang in the groceries for a lower amount. (My mother often helped us buy groceries for this was absolutely in keeping with her provision.)
--we were about to rent a townhouse but she stopped me in the hallway before we were about to sign the rental agreement and said "No, a better place down the road." Indeed there was a much better place down the road. The whole application process went so smoothly that we feel she helped grease the wheels.
--things falling in the living room. A candle stick (out of a set of three wooden ones) fell over. Nothing else fell over. Her way of saying "I'm here." as we unpacked her belongings.
--objects appearing one place and then surfacing in another location. Again, a sense of "Notice me." (We'd asked her to give us signs that she knew where we are after a recent move.)
--supernatural strength given to us to move-house (move) and set up all over again, just after having packed up her apartment and dealt with her memorial service.
--she came to me via email (like automatic writing but email instead) with a message as to why she died and what it was like and how she is and what she is doing. Told me to send it to other family members which I did.
--interactive dreams where she speaks and I hear and we communicate. She has asked me questions about certain things/situations as she's learning how to deal with the past from the perspective of where she is now.
it continues. She has told us that she is able to watch over us, be with us,
and at the same time be on the other side. (This is a bit different than the
usual view that it is either all-here or all-there.)
Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased? Yes
Describe what you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated: Interior location (inside my head). Also by objects moving about, scent, or strange synchronicities.
Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated? Inside. Non verbal as in not auditory but absolutely understandable as 'speech'.
If you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the deceased made when they were alive? Similar.
Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? No.
Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased? Yes
On shoulders, forehead, cool breeze over our bed.
Was the touch familiar or unfamiliar? Comforting, not at all frightening.
Was anything communicated by the touch? Love, reassurance, compassion.
Is there any possibility what you felt was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? No
Did you see the deceased? Yes
Same face, same hair, same clothing ! But younger and at her prime.
How clearly did the deceased appear? Everything from a mist to quite solid.
How much of the deceased did you see? Have seen her face, her profile of her whole body (head to toe), and variations on this.
Did the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died? No, about 25 years younger.
How healthy did the deceased appear to be? In the glow of good health, quite radiant.
Is there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? No.
Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased? Yes
What smell, scent, fragrance or odor did you smell? Her exact perfume.
Was the smell, scent, fragrance or odor familiar? Yes, known to us because she wore the same perfume all the time.
Was anything communicated by the smell? That she was nearby....
Is there any possibility that the smell, scent, fragrance or odor was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? NO because it is a really strong perfume that she liked. We used to joke it would make us fall off the couch (when she was alive.)
How long did the experience last? Seconds.
Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden? No the smell was quite suddenly there.
Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased? Yes Yes I could tell if she was concerned about us or wanting to tell us how she was doing.
Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know? Yes, she told us what prompted her suicide and who the person was who called her on the phone earlier in the evening before her death. She provided the missing piece of information we could not figure out (meaning the trigger for her overdose.)
How do you currently view the reality of your experience? Experience was definitely real
Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real: I tend to analyze things from both a scientific viewpoint and also from the spiritual at the same time.
Was the experience dream like in any way? No
Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience: It seemed the more we/I were missing her and thinking of her with an emotional intensity that was out of the ordinary that our emotion and hers were a conduit for communication.
Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience? Yes
A feeling that all shall be well.
What was the best and worst part of your experience? Best: reassurance from my mother that she is fine and we still have a relationship, although with different parameters obviously ! Worse: the newness of it, undocumented aspects, and all the questions that the encounters brought up.
Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience? Yes Describe: Deepening of spiritual walk in general.
Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience? Yes Increased faith in God.
Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.? Yes That what Jesus taught about eternal life is undeniably true beyond any shadow of a doubt. Our society wants to cover up this and tends to focus on the acquiring of 'things' before there is supposedly no more life....and false teachings abound as a result. I believe that we are increasingly well-educated and able to handle the truth which is why it is being revealed with respect to the whole subject of death not being death.
Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s). Have you ever made such a compact? Yes
My mother said if she were the first to go she'd try to contact us. And vice versa if we went first.
Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later? Yes Car being fixed, cashier tills being affected, etc. There were other witnesses.
What emotions did you feel during the experience? Relief she could 'get through'. Calm, renewed peace in God.
Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others? Yes
Our children and my husband also saw the same thing.
Did you become aware of future events? No
My mother said that our recent move would go fine and she'd be watching over us. This came to pass, she was right.
Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased? Yes
In a few of the situations, my mother's husband who'd died 16 years ago. (my father)
Did you see a light? Yes As I said, we saw a mist in the hallway the one time.
Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above? No
Have you shared this experience with others? Yes Other minister colleagues concurred that what I experienced was real and I wasn't 'losing it'. However members of my church (a few whom I shared this with) were skeptical. Some general acquaintances looked at me like I should go see a psychiatrist fast.
Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site? No
Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience? We need to be open to documenting these afterlife-experiences so that knowledge may grow and humanity become more aware of what truly does happen after death.
Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience? No
Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience? No
Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event? Yes
Many spiritual events over the course of my career as a minister helping others with their concerns.
Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience? Yes
Please offer any suggestions you may have to improve this questionnaire. You might include a section for things not covered in the references to smell, touch, and vision. For example there may be multiple-sense experiences with more than one combination of events.