Home PageShare ADCADC Stories

Patricia P ADCs

Experience description:  

I was 12 years old staying with my grandparents when my Dad had open heart surgery,  they told myself and my brother he was doing fine for a week.   The teacher I had asked how he was doing every day and a boy that sat in front of me would whisper , 'What Funeral home is he in?' every day.   I woke up from a dream of the school scene described above but I had answered the boy,  'Bernhart's Funeral Home'.  I had heard the phone ring, as my grandmother said hello I walked out of the bedroom and said, ' I know my Daddy's dead.  'I was completely calm and matter of fact, and correct, the calm wore off pretty quick.  My Mother later told me when I was around 14 that she had a dream right after Dad died that she was asking how she would raise us with out him and he sat down on the bed and put his arm around her and said it would be ok and she woke up sitting on the side of the bed (of course mom can't verify that and I didn't ask more of her)

When I was 25 and pregnant with my second child mom was diagnosed with a brain tumor, post surgery she had a bleed and they had to go back in,  then a abscess, a stroke and coded once but as revived although she was in a coma.  I was nearing the end of my pregnancy and my baby was transverse putting a lot of pressure on my stomach at 8 months, my OB forbid me to stay in Atlanta as he was fearing a C section and I lived 30 miles away from Emory where Mom was.  I had signed a DNR as Mom had asked if she couldn't be in her right mind and her surgeon had reluctantly informed there was no chance of her ever regaining mental or physical function at that point.  I awoke choking on vomit at midnight and staggered into the bath room unable to breath, I pounded on the wall to wake my husband and he pounded on my back in return and I was able to take a breath.  2 hrs later the door bell rang and my husband said,  'Your Aunts are here.  'He didn't have to tell me why.  When I got my Mom's death certificate a couple of weeks after her funeral I was astounded to see she had died of a pulmonary embolism and been pronounced dead at the exact time I got back in bed as I had glanced at the clock. 

Was this experience difficult to express in words? Yes

I was uncertain if any one would believe me, especially as a child even though my Grandmother heard me tell her my Dad was dead while she was holding the phone and I didn't hear her say anything about it, she did look very shocked.  I told a few open minded people about feeling Mom die, mostly a few nurses who knew the suffocating feeling would be the same, I looked at the time when I went back to bed and the time was the exact time mom was declared dead. 

Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing,  hearing,  feeling or smelling them?

Yes

Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased? No

Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased? No

Did you see the deceased? No

Did you smell a distinct smell,  scent,  fragrance or odor associated with the deceased? No

How long did the experience last? A few minutes each time. 

Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden? Sudden, woke from a sound sleep . 

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased? Uncertain

I think I felt my mom die. 

Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know? I knew dad had passed without being told. 

How do you currently view the reality of your experience? Experience was definitely real

Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real: It happened to me and i can still feel the shock to this day, I have no doth what so ever that I was given fore knowledge in some manner, I don't know if it came from god or my deep connection to my parents, I just know it was real. 

Was the experience dream like in any way? Yes

I had a dream of Dad being dead right before I woke to the phone call but told my grandmother before she said more than hello.  And I woke from sleep feeling what a patient would feel if they couldn't breath as in a pulmonary embolism, I didn't know for two weeks that I felt that at the exact time my Mom was passing. 

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience: Numb and unemotional when I told Grandmother that dad was dead then shocked, sad and confused, I was only 12.  When I got mom's death certificate at age 25 I was astounded and floored and still think I felt what she felt when she died.  Of course i was sorely grieved when mom died but she had suffered 4 months and I was relived she was no longer in pain, I couldn't mourn her properly until my baby was born then I took 2 years to finally part with her personal belongings. 

Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience? Yes

Feeling that we were so connected beyond death was some comfort eventually. 

What was the best and worst part of your experience? I can't really think of best except after Mom died I became much more attentive to the belief in a higher power.  Of course the worse part was I lost my parents way too young. 

Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience? Yes Describe: I specialized in hospice work and private duty with terminal patients as a nurse, I'm comfortable around the dying and have no fear of death.  I'm kinder and pray daily and look for the work of god's hands in every thing. 

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience? Yes I believed there was more than meets the eye and later became a Christian in good standing . 

Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life,  death,  afterlife,  God,  etc.  ? Yes I knew they reached out to me so there had to be something beyond the grave. 

Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s).   Have you ever made such a compact? No

Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later? Yes My Grandmother heard me say Dad was dead with out being told,  my brother is still living and heard me say it too,  my ex husband who is still living witnessed me choking at the time of Mom's death and saw the death certificate. 

What emotions did you feel during the experience? Shock, sadness and grief. 

Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others? Yes

My grandmother heard me tell her dad was dead before she told me and my husband witnessed me choking and saw the death certificate as well as my aunts informing us in person that night. 

Did you have any sense of altered space or time? No

Did you have a sense of knowing,  special knowledge,  universal order and/or purpose? Yes

I knew I experienced something normally not felt by others, or at least not spoken of. 

Did you become aware of future events? Yes

Many times I've felt I've been places before or dreamed things that came to pass, as far as dreams usually not good things. 

Did you have any psychic,  paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience? Yes

After Mom's death I found I could read Taro cards with accurate outcome, I stopped at the request of my son and the gradual feeling that I was messing with something I didn't understand. 

Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body? No

Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased? No

Did you see a light? No

Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above? No

Have you shared this experience with others? Yes The few friends , co workers or family believed me, I don't know if I influenced anyone, I was selective in whom I told. 

Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site? No

Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience? No. 

Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience? No

Following the experience,  have you had any other events in your life,  medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience? No

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience? Yes

Please offer any suggestions you may have to improve this questionnaire.   I think ya'll have it pretty nailed down!