First let me say that my father is a wonderful man, a chiropractor who would care for his patients regardless of ability for payment and litterally would accept as payment clams, yes clams, or anything else like hand made furnature the patient could afford. He loved people of all walks of life and was a take care of business kind of guy who saved money and live modestly but comfortably. He was very creative and loved gardening, his children and grandchildren. He loved babies and babies loved him. He did not believe in life after death and did not like religion and felt it was very opressive. He did not like talking about life after death and thought it was dumb. He was a very heathly man, he did not look 70 and was very handsome, he took walks, worked on furnature in his shop and loved finding old abused furnature and giving it a second life.
This thing litterally happened in a matter of minutes though I am sure it may have been coming for a few days prior. He ate a big dinner and enjoyed it, walked over to the gas stove and then a seizure and he was on the floor. At the hospital they told us he had encephilitis caused by the herpies virus from having the chicken pox as a child. He battled for almost a month mom and I were there every step of the way encouraging him to fight. Some days we were sure he was coming back then the next he was sliding back. Back and forth then on January 27 he stopped fighting. We did not make it there before he died but just after. We held him and told him how much we loved him he was still warm and we wanted him to know we were not angry with him for choosing to stop fighting it was getting ugly and he looked 100 at the end I was so angry that such a viberant man in his prime was struck down by a rare virus.
My dad bought a truck a beautiful Dodge diesle he loved that truck and was like a kid throwing everything possible at it, such a toy. My fiance Ric bought a Chevy and dad liked to razz Ric about his weany truck. So mom gave me the truck because she's too short to drive it and we did not want it leaving the family. I programed the radio for my channels channel 1&2 I left dad's 3&4 while driving it. I punched in channel 1 good time oldies and was listening half heartedly and was not paying much attention and notice I just heard talking, when I looked at the radio it was on 4 NPR dad's station. I thought I must have accidently hit it and put it back on channel 1, then again I heard talk radio and looked and it was on channel 4. This kept up until I got annoyed and turned it down and thought I would ask mom if they had been having problems with it. The next day I put it on channel 1 good time oldies and again it turned to channel 4. Again and again. Annoyed I turned it down.
The third day my fiance Ric was driving and I was sitting listening to chanel 1 good time oldies and it changed. I said to Ric "look at this stupid thing it keeps changing to chanel 4" no other channel just 4. Over and over we would watch as it changed. The Hood Canal was open to allow a coast guard ship go through and we were sitting on the bridge deck pushing 1 and watching it change to 4 when Ric said "Bob knock it off" and I hit me like a ton of brick and I started to cry. Dad had been trying to get my attention and I kept turning him down. When the realization that it was him hit me I felt my face get very hot and fuzzy feeling and tingles of electricity coarsing through my whole body and I said "dad? If this means your ok then we will be alright to" I was sure a knowing like nothing I have ever know before so sure that it was him. He changed the channel one more time to 4 after I said what I said and it has not budged again no matter how hard I stare at it.
I cried a lot that day but thanked him and thanked god for the gift I had received and the relief that I had a witness! My grief has changed from gut wrenching to just missing him. I was tickled tho about the way he contacted me. You see we had a running joke about a radio. When I was sixteen or so I had a radio that I played loud and he would get so angry at the noise. One time after being told repeatedly to turn it down he came in my room and stomped on it until it broke. The only time he ever acted out in anger toward me. It became a running joke that when I made him mad he would say stop it or I'll stomp your radio. Even in my 40th year he said that to me. So I laughed that he used the radio and I am in awe that he is so smart that he kept at it until he got my attention.
wish I could have been there to see the look on his face when he stepped out of
his body and there he was somewhere he never thought he would be or that
existed. I know he wanted me to know he was wrong and there was more to us than
just flesh and bone and that he was alright. I told my mom and she laughed and
cried and is so relieved. She say when she gets there after she kissed him she
is going to yell at him for leaving her so soon and a few investments he made
and didn't tell her about. My dad is the smartest bravest man and even in death
made sure that his family could go on and let us know it was alright. Needless
to say I am very proud of him and proud and honored that God thought enough of
me to make me his daughter. I can't tell you what an amazing thing this is and
how it has totally changed my life.
Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased? Yes
Describe what you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated: The radio in his truck
Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased? Yes
My face, my cheeks got warm and fuzzy feeling like hands cupping my face.
Was the touch familiar or unfamiliar? it was just warm and safe,
Was anything communicated by the touch? I just think it was calming
Is there any possibility what you felt was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? no
Did you see the deceased? No
Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased? Uncertain, I think he was relieved to get my attention
How do you currently view the reality of your experience? Experience was definitely real
Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real: A deep core knowing like osmosis like it's part of me. Before I had hoped life after death was real I was afraid of death and that nothing forever was what was probably real. Now I know it's not where we end.
Was the experience dream like in any way? No
Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience: Like a light had gone on, like a whole new realization, like oh my god dad! relief for him that I caught on, grateful to God for making it possible for my dad to let me know he was ok the best way he could. In awe for how smart my dad is for doing it the way he did. Joking with him about being wrong about the whole life after death thing.
Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience? Yes
Yes I don't feel the gut wrenching pain I cry still in happiness for his unbelievable braveness, and missing him, but I don't feel bad. I sort of feel happy despite pms and missing him but it's only missing it's not dread.
What was the best and worst part of your experience? Best;knowing my dad's ok and still living. Worst;wanting more contact but not wanting to bug my dad in death all the time. Like high maintainance.
Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience? Yes
Describe: I look forward to gardening and riding my horse I didn't think I would again.
Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience? Yes, Knowing for sure of life after death, and a loving God.
Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.? Yes, It's real, it's relieving. Like I have an awe for how smart God is, and how love can cross even an ocean of death.
What emotions did you feel during the experience? Well excited to tell everyone, excited for dad, overwhelming joy I couldn't cry again I didn't feel my chest in a tight knot anymore. Life the greatest burden had been lifted off my shoulders. But I miss seeing his handsome face. Relieved I had a witness!
Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others? Yes, Yes my fiance was driving and witnessed it.
Did you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose? Yes
Like it all opened up and my dad made damn sure that I knew he was there. He would do that for me he would move heaven and earth for me so I could be ok. And deep inside of me I have never known anything more than he was there and he gave me this gift so I could be ok and live a good life.
Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience? Uncertain
I have had some things I have thought would happen happen. I had a time when my son was choking in the back seat of my car a voice in my head say loud and sharply "HE'S CHOKING"
Have you shared this experience with others? Yes
I have shared with all my friends and my mom. My mom is bumbed he hasn't contacted her, my friend especially Brenda believes but only Brenda has had an adc.
Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site? No
Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience? It was the single most important experience of my life, even more than giving birth.
Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience? No
Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience? No
Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience? Yes
Please offer any suggestions you may have to improve this questionnaire. I think it was great, thank you for having such a site!