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1 April 2003 was the first time he appeared in my dream. He seemed very confused and disoriented. In my dream his lips were sealed (this was because of what the funeral home had done for the wake) and then he pried his lips open and was able to speak. I remember saying to him that he has scared everyone as we thought he had died. Since then he has appeared in my dreams almost daily. Then one day I smelt coffee brewing in the house it was 9.30 at night, I don't have a coffee machine. I asked my mum if she can smell coffee and she said she could. The next day I spoke with Tim's mum and she said she experienced the same thing as she was vacuuming the hallway she smelt coffee brewing in Tim's bathroom but there was no coffee there of course. His mum lives in Chicago I live in Sydney Australia.
A few things have happened like a bottle of liquid soap went missing mysteriously from our kitchen sink. My mum and I could smell someone smoking behind us when we would go for walks but there would be no one behind us. I have had 2 frights from him, once he spoke to me and it gave me such a fright as i was in a deep sleep I screamed and woke everyone up. The following week I was awoken by a black aberration floating above me when I was a sleep it terrified me - this happened about 2 weeks ago. Since then I have slept with the light on and I have asked that he no longer contact me that way again as it is scaring me.
only seen him in my dreams a couple of times since that experience. Out of
nowhere the ropes of the window blind would hit the blind and start swinging at
night - my daughter witnessed this also. When I returned to Sydney after the
funeral my mum would hear him talking to my birds as she opened the door to our
Was this experience difficult to express in words? No
Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them? Yes
Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased? Yes
Describe what you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated: I was in a deep sleep and I heard him say something in my ear-but I was so taken aback from it that I could not remember what he tried to say. I was terrified.
Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated? It was outside of me -right near my left ear. I only remember hearing the first sound of a word that is all. It scared me.
If you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the deceased made when they were alive? I am not sure? I cannot say it sounded like him as I screamed as soon as I heard the first sound.
Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? No absolutely not.
Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience? no
Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased? Yes
At nights I feel a presence a very soothing one as if he is stroking my back and my thighs over my blanket. But I am not afraid.
Was the touch familiar or unfamiliar? Yes very familiar. It was like he use to touch and caress me.
Was anything communicated by the touch? No- I just felt him there, I was not fully awake nor fully asleep.
Is there any possibility what you felt was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? no
Did you see the deceased? No
Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased? Yes
What smell, scent, fragrance or odor did you smell? The very first time was in the car with his father, I smelt his cigarette and cologne. Dad could smell it too. This happened on the way to pick up his ashes. Later on I smelt the odor that he left on his bed when soiled the bed when he died. I knew he was around when i smelt that odor. Later on I could smell his cologne, coffee and cigarette. He also loved burning incense, early on I could smell incense burning. Not anymore.
Was the smell, scent, fragrance or odor familiar? The odor was the one he left behind when he soiled the bed, the cologne was Pheromone for Men by Marilyn Miglin he loved that cologne, he was a heavy coffee drinker and smoker so I could smell that too.
Was anything communicated by the smell? I knew immediately it was him.
Is there any possibility that the smell, scent, fragrance or odor was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? No.
How long did the experience last? The coffee smell lasted about 10-15 minutes. The cigarette smoke lasted about 2-3 minutes. I smell his cologne at night times when I drift off to sleep at times.
Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden? It was sudden. It would just come out of the blue.
Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased? No
Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know? The only thing I remember distinctly from a dream was that he said "he could not feel the wet"....I think he was trying to tell me that we hadn't scattered his ashes in the river yet. We are going to scatter them in July. When my daughter and I fly to Chicago to bury part of his ashes and scatter the rest in the first crow wing river in Minnesota.
How do you currently view the reality of your experience? Experience was definitely real
Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real: As it has happened so many times. The smells are distantly him and it was strange that his mum had the same experience on the other side of the world with the coffee brewing smell.
Was the experience dream like in any way? No
Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience: I was very welcoming with the smells. When he spoke and I saw the black aberration is scared me so much that i cannot sleep with out the hallway light on now.
Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience? Uncertain
I was fine at the beginning but I think I am not fully recovered from his loss. I feel really sad right now but I know he loves me very much and that is why he is around me.
What was the best and worst part of your experience? the dreams were best. evenings are scary as I am afraid he will try to contact me again.
Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience? No
Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.? Yes
He is the first person I have lost that i have known for along time and I have loved so dearly. I know that he is watching over me and our daughter. He is with God and his family in heaven.
What emotions did you feel during the experience? Fearful after the black aberration and sound incident. I am not afraid when I smell him.
Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others? Yes
my daughter saw the blind rope swing, my mum smelt the coffee brewing smell and we both smelt the cigarette smoke.
Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above? Yes, i described the locations in the previous responses
Have you shared this experience with others?
Yes, i told my friend about the black aberration and before i even finished describing it to her she told me about her experience and added the sound effects which I experienced. my mum and my his parents believe me.
Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site? No
Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience? Yes
The night I saw the aberration I had taken a Tylenol pm an hour before.
Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience? No
Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event? Yes
When I was around 8 years old I saw an angel and she gave me a glass of water to drink. I was very thirsty and I called out for my mum and she could not hear me then all of a sudden I saw this light next to me bed and she had a tray in her hand with a glass of water, I was frightened and I hid under my blankets and then her hand went thru the blanket and I wasn't afraid I sat up and indicated that I could drink the water however when I tried to pick the glass up my hand went right thru the glass and then she did something and the glass became solid and i was able to pick it up and drink it. The next day I saw the glass on my dresser and I asked my mum if she had brought me a glass of water that night and she said she hadn't. It was not my mum.
Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience? Yes
Please do not think I am a lunatic. My family are very spiritual people and I know that my grand parents are always giving us messages via our dreams also. I believe in the contacts i have with them. I have to say I am a little afraid at the moment but I know in time it will pass.