I'd had a slight tiff
with my boyfriend 2-3 days before and we had not talked after that. The night he
died, around 9.30pm, I wanted to call him and make up but my ego wouldn't permit
it. So I did not call. At around 12.30 that night, when I was sleeping, I had a
dream of him, which I do not remember, but I woke up and sat up in my bed to
find someone standing at the door (towards the foot of my bed) leading from my
bedroom to the living room and watching me intently. I knew that it was
someone's spirit (was not scared at all) but could not make the connection. I
prayed for the poor soul, and went back to sleep. Got to know the next morning
that he had died at around the same time that I'd seen him. That's when it hit
me that the soul I'd seen looked like him, the build etc.
Was this experience difficult to express in words? No
Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them? No
Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased? No
Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased? No
Did you see the deceased? Yes
the way he looked in real life, was standing at the door leading from my bedroom to the living room
How clearly did the deceased appear? solid
How much of the deceased did you see? all of him
Did the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died? the age that he died at
How healthy did the deceased appear to be? normal
Is there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? NO
Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased? No
How long did the experience last? 1/2 a minute maybe
Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden? sudden
Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased? Uncertain
I was just being observed
Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know? No
How do you currently view the reality of your experience? Experience was definitely real
Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real: Because there were many more things that happened immediately after his death, for instance, I could smell a mix of his body odor mixed with his favorite cologne at the oddest of times and places, sometimes while driving to work etc.
I also found a message on my answering machine from him which I was not aware existed since our communication was always over the mobile phones.
I could also sense his presence many times, was even hugged a couple of times.
One particular time, 12 days after his death, I woke up to hear a lot of noise in my room as if he was extremely restless and moving around. The moment I opened my eyes, I was pulled up from my left arm and he said, very angrily, "come with me". That definitely wasn't a dream because I asked him to leave, that he did not belong here anymore, and the noise stopped all of a sudden as he left.
I have also had this very heavy clay bell hanging in my room ring when I asked him to send me a signal that he was around. One particular time, on a special day, the bell kept ringing by itself off and on all day, even if there was no wind or anything that could make it move.
I would also hear doors
knocking for many months after his death, specially my bathroom door, and in my
heart knew that it was him.
Was the experience dream like in any way? No
Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience: I initially thought it could be my grandmother's soul, who had passed away 4 months back, but knew that she was happy wherever she was. Therefore, I just prayed for peace and happiness for the one I'd seen.
Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience? Yes
I'd heard that when a person is dying, their soul visits the people that it loves. I was assured of his love for me.
What was the best and worst part of your experience? The worst part is I wish I'd known it was him, I would have tried to speak with him. The best part is knowing that he loved me enough to come and see me.
Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience? Yes Describe: I have become all the more religious, or let me say, spiritual
Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience? No
Did the experience
give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God,
etc.? Yes I just became very certain that there is life after death and
that communication was possible with those who had passed on
Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s). Have you ever made such a compact? No
Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later? No
Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience? Yes As in 21 above
Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body? No
Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased? Yes
I have, but on a different occasion
Did you see a light? Uncertain
there probably was some pale light surrounding him because my room was otherwise dark, but I could see him
Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above? No
Have you shared this experience with others? Yes disbelief, but only momentary
Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site? No
Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience? I feel privileged
Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience? No
Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience? No
Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event? Yes
I've had out of body experience a couple of times, but that was many years ago
Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience? Yes
Pretty much, although its hard to describe the emotions, briefly, I feel overwhelmed