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Experience description: A couple of days after the death of my fiance in an automobile accident I had a dream in which I was contacted by her. In the dream I received a phone call while I was at her place of work. When I was told I had a call by one of her coworkers, I told the person I would take the call at a phone nearby me. Her coworker told me "No, you have to take the call here at this phone". So I went over and picked up the phone and it was my fiance. She asked how her children were doing and I told her that they were doing pretty good considering. I then told her that this recent accident made me realize how much I loved her. I told her we shouldn't put off the wedding any longer and just get married as soon as possible. Then she answered me back saying "I was just calling to check on the kids. We can't get married because I'm dead". Then the call ended and I woke up from the dream.

Was this experience difficult to express in words?  No

Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?          Yes

            Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated?  Originated externally

            If you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the deceased made when they were alive?           similar

            Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?           no

            Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience?   no

How long did the experience last?        a few minutes

Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?         The beginning seemed gradual. The ending was somewhat sudden as I woke up from the dream.

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?           Uncertain

She seemed concerned about her children.

How do you currently view the reality of your experience?           Experience was probably real

            Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:          Seemed to be a very vivid dream. I don't normally remember very many dreams.

            Was the experience dream like in any way?   Yes

I was sleeping and it was definitely in the form of a dream.

What did you feel (while awake) immediately prior to your experience?             
 
Sad, Confused 
 

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:          
I was happy to hear from her, but I was disappointed she didn't tell me she was OK or that she loved me. She was more concerned about her children.


Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?           No

What was the best and worst part of your experience?      The best part was hearing her voice again. The worst part was her telling me we couldn't get married because she was dead.

Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience?         Yes

           
Describe:      I am reading the Bible again and going back to church.

What other attitudes and beliefs about your experience do you currently have?        
   
Dream 


Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?
   Yes

I am becoming more spiritual and have a renewed belief in God.

Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.?            Uncertain

appeared to be a communication from her, but nothing about life, afterlife or God was revealed.

Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased?            Yes

One of her coworkers (the same person who gave me the news that she had been in an accident)

Have you shared this experience with others?        

Yes, They were happy I had heard from her.

Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?   No

 Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience?       Just would like to say "Monica, I love you and I will never forget you. Love, Ray"

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?               Yes