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Experience description:  

My mother came to me in my sleep. I have seldom dreamt of her alone, before or after this experience. Never that I can remember where we were simply alone.

When my mother had died I lived at the other end of the country 2500 miles away and she lived near where I now lived. I had visited with her just ten days or so before she died. at that time we had both known she was going to die soon. We had said our goodbyes. She asked that I make sure my father was ok, taken care of.

Two years later when she came to me in my dream, we both knew/acknowledged she was dead. She told me everything was all right with her and asked me if my father was well, if he was doing ok. I told her he was fine, still living in their condo alone. I told her I was now living nearer to him, that we had moved to Vancouver from eastern Canada, something she did not know we were going to do when she died . She seemed pleased. I told her why we had moved, who I was working for.  We spoke like that for a short time, about every day kind of things. She seemed happy very matter of fact. 

The conversation was quite short I told her she need not worry about dad or us and she left. I had the feeling of others in the background but did not see them. She left without indicating she would return.

I had a feeling of great happiness at being able to reassure her that she need not worry about us and at seeing that she was happy.

Was this experience difficult to express in words?  No

Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?          Yes

            Describe what you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated:   see above, it was brief factual somewhat matter of fact

            Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated?  I had the sense she was right there with me I saw her and heard her as if she were alive beside me

            If you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the deceased made when they were alive?           the same

            Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?           no

            Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience?   no

Did you see the deceased?         Yes

she was dressed as she might have been before death, and about the same age as when she died but healthy looking

How clearly did the deceased appear?            very clearly

How much of the deceased did you see?       mostly upper body, almost as if she were sitting with something covering her legs

Did the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died?       about same age see above

How healthy did the deceased appear to be?            healthy

Is there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?           no

How long did the experience last?        a very few minutes

Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?         she entered and left my dream suddenly if not abruptly

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?           Yes

she was happy, quiet, in control of herself

How do you currently view the reality of your experience?           Experience was probably real

            Was the experience dream like in any way?   Yes

She came to me in a dream but content and tenor were very real, both as it was happening. I knew I was dreaming in the dream, that she was dead and that we were conversing about the thing she wanted to know.

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:           happy

Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?           No

What was the best and worst part of your experience?      Best to be able to reassure her about my father and that she was happy.  there was no bad or worse part

Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience?         No

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?   Yes

In a small way I became more accepting of death, not something I had feared before but nevertheless felt better about

What emotions did you feel during the experience?            elated at her visit

Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased?            No

Though I sensed others in the background and that she was with them

Have you shared this experience with others?         Yes

My wife who was asleep beside me.. I woke her up early the next morning to tell her about it...I awakened immediately as the 'dream' was over. She asked me if my mother had asked where we were having Christmas that year, something always high on my mothers agenda! My wife was not disparaging but treated it lightly.

Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?   No

 Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience?       Yes, my wife died suddenly within a year or so(14 years ago) and I have always wondered if she would come to me in a similar dream. She has not. I remarried a year later and while I have dreamt of my deceased wife it was usually in the context of her reappearing in my life and me having to explain/choose between her and my current spouse! Those dreams did not have the tenor of the one with my mother at all

Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience?            No

Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?         No 

Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event?           Yes 

Have sent in near death experience to your site earlier today also as Ray

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?               Yes