Robert M's ADCs
Each of my experience's were different and unexpected.
The first experience was as a child of 12 years old.
My infant sister [1 years old] shared my bedroom, I had a habit of waking up during the night, getting out of my bed and checking on her while she slept in her crib.
This particular night was the same, with the exception that when I looked at her, she appeared as my deceased great grandmother.
For a moment I was thinking I was seeing things so I rubbed my eyes and looked again, and it was still my deceased grandmother.
Needless to say I became frightened and ran into the bathroom and slept on the floor.
My second experience was when I was about 21 or 22 years old.
I was living in Manhattan, and had a dog.
My habit was to wake up...slide my pants on and immediately walk the dog.
This particular morning I woke up...stood up...pulled my pants on and suddenly felt totally exhausted and paralyzed, and had to sit / lie down
With my eyes wide open, what appeared to be a fog seem to drift from the apt door [studio apt] to my bed and back to the door.
As soon as the fog left the apt. I regained my strength, grabbed the dog and ran for the door.
My next experience I was about 26 years old, on the night my partners mother, Annie Mae died.
On that night, while in bed, she appeared at the foot of my bed.
Thinking I was groggy, I rubbed my eyes, looked and she was still standing there, for but a few seconds more, then vanished.
No words were spoken.
A work friend [Glenn] became very ill, and was hospitalized. [about 20 years ago]
I planned a visit on a Saturday, I live in San Clemente Ca. and he was in a hospital about an hour away.
We spoke that morning, he told me not to worry, the he wasn't going to die, and not come that day because his Mother was there and he wanted to spend time alone with her....so I agreed.
Sitting in my back yard, I started to dose off, and Glenn came to me in my dream and was saying something that I could not hear.
I woke abruptly and had a strange, urgent feeling about the dream and decided that we [my partner and I] would go to the hospital anyway, even if we had to wait till Glenn's Mother left.
We drove to the hospital, asked what room Glenn was in, and was told he wasn't there.
I said there must be a mistake because I spoke to him a few hour's ago.
Upon further looking, the reception person informed us that Glenn had Passed Away the same time I was having my dream.
At this time I was working in La, and had been working away from home for a few weeks.
I was exhausted, but eager to get back home, and decided I would drive even though I was very tired.
It was still day light and I was on a toll road with many hilly steep declines.
All I remember was falling sound asleep and starting to dream, and my deceased Mother's voice screaming, loudly and clearly..... Robert....!!!!
As I jolted awake I was headed to a cliff, gained control of the car.
Needless to say I was shaken.
It has been a little over a year since my Partner Tom, who I had been with for 48 passed away, at home, after a long illness [cancer]
Since Toms death, I feel Tom touching my neck, in many moments of sadness. [fully awake]
I have heard him say my name, call me, kiss me, hold my hand, feeling him get out of bed....etc. etc. [generally while I am just waking]
dream's consist, mostly of, but not all, deceased relatives and friends, so to
list these dreams would have me typing a book.
Date of experience: to many to answer
Length of time between death of deceased and your experience: to many to answer
Was the date of the experience significant in any way? the night Annie Mae died she appeared at the foot of my bed.
Betty, my mother saved me from going over a cliff due to
falling asleep at the wheel, and calling my name.
General geographic location of experience: some in new York.
some in California.
Details of location of experience and your activity at the time of experience: some while I was fully awake
about to fall asleep
many many while i am waking....or asleep [in a dream]
Degree of bereavement for deceased immediately prior to the experience: Moderately severe sadness and/or grief feelings
Degree of alertness immediately prior to experience: Fully alert
After your experience, did you consider the contents of your experience: Mixed
Have you had multiple experiences? Yes I have had at least 7 ADCs
I have had and continue to have dreams of / with the deceased
always, thus to many to count.
Was this experience difficult to express in words? No
Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them? No
Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased? Yes
Describe what you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated: I have described this already.
Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated? Externally, as I heard the sound and it would wake me. [dream state]
If you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the deceased made when they were alive? Similar.
Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? No, because I would often try to put some rational thinking to what I experienced.
Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience? No non a all.
Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased? Yes
Since my partner has passed, at moments of sadness, I feel a light, gentle sensation on the right side of my neck.
As if someone it touching my neck.
At first I thought perhaps it was my shirt, sheets, breeze,
any number of logical reasons.
Was the touch familiar or unfamiliar? What came to my mind was that perhaps it was Tom's way of trying to comfort me??
Was anything communicated by the touch? No.
Is there any possibility what you felt was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? No.
Did you see the deceased? Yes
When I have Glimpsed Him...it would generally happen because I
was awakened, or I would awaken hearing him walk, or call me.
How clearly did the deceased appear? There were the occasions that the deceased appeared solid which I have described.
And there were occasions that the deceased appeared somewhat
How much of the deceased did you see? Seemed to be a full body.
Did the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died? The age at which they died....except for Tom.
How healthy did the deceased appear to be? They seemed healthy.
Tom was very sick before he died, with many infirmities, I
have only had glimpse of Tom so I can not answer that honestly.
Is there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? No
Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased? Yes
What smell, scent, fragrance or odor did you smell? After 48 years you know a persons scent so Yes...but not always.
Was the smell, scent, fragrance or odor familiar? Yes, [see above]
Was anything communicated by the smell? No, other then the person coming to mind.
Is there any possibility that the smell, scent, fragrance or odor was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? No.
How long did the experience last? I will assume, very brief.
Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden? Brief.
Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased? Uncertain
Times I have had a visual of the deceased, no words were spoken.
Times I have had vivid dream's, which there have been so many,
yes because there was a story or we were talking.
Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know? No information.
How do you currently view the reality of your experience? Experience was definitely real
Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real: At 67 years old and having had these and other unexplainable experiences I feel that the body is only a vehicle for the Soul to experience this physical life....I feel we all have lived many life times, and people who we love who have passed on want us to know that life continues.
It continues only in a different vibration for The Soul to
Was the experience dream like in any way? Yes
Of course you tend to question the experience.
Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience: I wanted it to continue, and wanted it to be physical
Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience? No
What was the best and worst part of your experience? The best...perhaps a feeling of comfort.
What emotions did you feel during the experience? Confused, sometimes sad.
Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others? No
Did you have any sense of altered space or time? Yes
At that moment I felt as if I was in a vacuum and had a detached feeling.
Did you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose? No
Did you become aware of future events? No
Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience? No
Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body? Yes
I experienced a feeling of out of body the day / moment Tom died in my arms.
I assumed it was my only way of mentally copping with the moment.
Have you shared this experience with others?
They believed what I have told them.
Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site? No
Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience? No.
Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience? No
Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience? No
Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event? No
Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience? Yes
Please offer any suggestions you may have to improve this questionnaire. I have none.