Sandra M's ADC 2407
The entire experience occurred over about 5-10 seconds. I was walking into my bedroom, and suddenly felt someone behind me. Something about the feeling made me think of my mom. She lived in WI and was 1000 miles away. I turned around and there was her loving presence moving toward me. It gave the impression of being basically a cloud at face-level and not a body. I said 'mom?' out loud. I was startled, but not scared. It was clearly her, and the message was entirely of empathy, excitement, happiness and love. It seemed important. I didn't see anything distinctly, but I felt her very strongly. I had an impression of her face, and she reminded me of the way she looked when I was growing up. She came right up to me, and then was gone. It was a peaceful feeling, and I didn't call to check on her afterwards. I cataloged it in my head as something I couldn't explain, but didn't worry, because she was of course okay, she was my mom, and had been doing well. My husband and I went to a movie, and I found out the next day that she had passed away. I didn't share my experience with my family, but I've promised myself that I will share the story if my brothers need reassurance of her well-being after death.
Date of experience: 1/17/2016
Length of time between death of deceased and your experience: Same day
Was the date of the experience significant in any way? She passed away either on the night of the 16th or sometime on the 17th
General geographic location of experience: San Antonio, TX
Details of location of experience and your activity at the time of experience: just walking into my bedroom in my house, I didn't know she had died at the time of the experience
Degree of bereavement for deceased immediately prior to the experience: No sadness and/or grief feelings
Degree of alertness immediately prior to experience: Fully alert
After your experience, did you consider the contents of your experience: Wonderful
Have you had multiple experiences? Yes Several
Was this experience difficult to express in words? Yes
I thought it would be simple to explain, but when I started writing it, I realized that none of the words were exactly right. I think I've managed to describe it fairly well now, although it sounds weirder than it felt. I also can't explain my reactions very well.
Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them? No
Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased? Yes
Describe what you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated: I thought I heard her behind me, the way she moved, and breathed.
Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated? There was no voice, but I heard 'her' normal sounds behind me. Once I turned around, I didn't hear anything else.
Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? Yes, it was quiet, but it was enough that I turned around.
Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience? No
Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased? Yes
My whole body felt a sensation of warmth when she approached me
Was the touch familiar or unfamiliar? unfamiliar
Was anything communicated by the touch? Happiness, Love, Caring, Empathy, and also Excitement
Is there any possibility what you felt was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? Yes, the sounds were quiet. Its just that the combination of sounds 'felt' enough like her that I turned around.
Did you see the deceased? Yes
I didn't see a whole body, just her face. She looked like she did when I was growing up.
How clearly did the deceased appear? The expression seemed very clear to me, but the entire 'presence' I would describe as more of a beach-ball sized, transparent cloud.
How much of the deceased did you see? Only her expression, and only for a moment
Did the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died? She appeared younger
How healthy did the deceased appear to be? There was no body, but the communication was full of love and well-being.
Is there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? No
Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased? No
How long did the experience last? 5-10 sec
Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden? The beginning was very sudden, and I turned around and said 'mom?'. The ending was distinct, but not abrupt.
Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased? Yes
This was the strongest part of the experience. She communicated caring, love, and excitement.
Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know? I think she was saying goodbye. If I had been smarter, I might have realized that and checked on her right away. I didn't know she had died.
How do you currently view the reality of your experience? Experience was definitely real
Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real: It occurred, I have no reason to doubt that.
Was the experience dream like in any way? Uncertain
Sometimes in dreams you don't know or understand everything that happens.
Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience: I was confused for the first second, and then just happy and peaceful.
Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience? Uncertain
I wasn't worried about what's happened to her spirit. She was clearly happy. I just jumped right to grief and missing her.
What was the best and worst part of your experience? The entire experience was wonderful. The worst part was truly realizing afterwards what it had meant.
Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience? No
Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience? Yes I feel I understand death a little more
Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.? Yes What I've extrapolated: People remember each other after death, still love and care for one another, retain some sense of 'self', and that, at least for my mom, it was a pleasant journey.
Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s). Have you ever made such a compact? Yes
I actually spoke to my mom about that when she was alive. I told her I would want her to talk to me. She was concerned that it would be scary or creepy for the one still living.
Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later? Yes Well, according to the medical examiner, she died sometime that day or the previous evening. I didn't know she was dead at the time.
What emotions did you feel during the experience? Warmth, love, peace. I thought about it for a little while, and decided I didn't know what to make of it.
Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others? No
Did you have any sense of altered space or time? No
Did you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose? Yes
Did you become aware of future events? No
Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience? No
Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body? No
Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased? No
Did you see a light? No
Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above? No
Have you shared this experience with others? No
Have you shared this
experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?
Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience? I believe people should share these experiences. There seems to be a taboo about it, but I suspect they are more common than people admit. It didn't seem all that weird at the time. Answering these questions definitely made me think it was weird as heck.
Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience? No
Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience? No
Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event? No
Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience? Yes
Please offer any suggestions you may have to improve this questionnaire. It feels like the language isn't well-developed to describe this kind of event. A dictionary of relevant terms might help.