Sandra S's ADCs
The Monday night Jerry died, my son, Christopher and I stayed up talking very late, about Jerry, and how things went the way he would have wanted it, other than the fact that we knew he didn’t like dying. At 3:30, the TV which had been on, shut off by itself. Chris said something about the bewitching hour and Dad was telling us to cut the crap and go to bed. Thursday night my brother Skip, his family and Chris, his wife Emily, the grand girls and I were at Outback Steakhouse. Near the end of the evening, I started thinking about Jerry… about how I had told him that this was only a physical separation, that we would always be connected, which is why I had the infinity symbol engraved on the watch I had given him almost 40 years ago. I also thought about how many years it could be before I saw him if I lived as long as my grandmother had. I started writing on my coaster, the same thing again and again, But I just wrote the first letter of each sentence. Chris asked me what and I was writing b/c it didn’t make sense, I said I was just writing letters, and continued to do so, until all available space on the coaster, front and back was filled up. I didn't tell him that each letter stood for a word.
I woke up that night to hear a car alarm outside the house. Chris had left his car there, and has been driving Jerry's, and sure enough, it was his alarm. No one seemed to be in it. Good thing, too, b/c I walked down stairs and opened the front door. I didn’t have keys to turn off the alarm, so I called him. We joked a little about the time being 3:30. His car alarm has NEVER gone off for no reason at all.
The weird thing was that the alarm would go on for 5 minutes or so, then stop and a few minutes later, start up again. When he showed up with his keys, the car was unlocked. So how did the alarm go off? He left me the control for the panic, lock and unlock. It happened again after he left. The controls wouldn’t work. Finally the car became quiet. Then the headlights and tail lights went on, and stayed that way. So I called Chris back as I couldn’t turn them off with the remote. The alarm was off, so we figured the battery would go dead, and that would be OK since, at least it would be quiet. When the alarm went off again, at 4:20 ( lights were off) his wife, Emily drove over to pick up the car. She checked the back of the car to make sure no one was in it before she drove it home.
At 5:20 and 9:30 am, Jerry's car alarm went off.
This is what I had written on the coaster: HINYSMPCM: Honey, I need you so much. Please contact me. HINYSMPDFM: Honey, I need you so much, please don't forget me.
And the day of the funeral, March 14th, we (my daughter, Kara, Michael and grand kids Jackson and Emme down from NY and me ) were rushing around to get out of the house as the limo was already at Christopher's house and we needed to leave no later than 9:15 for the church. At 8:15, the smoke alarms on both floors went off for no reason what so ever. The kids are screaming and dog is trying to go through the windows with the wooden blinds. (This is definitely not a dog who will be written up for alerting its owner that the house is on fire: he will be the first one out the door.)
Since then: Apr 4, my first day back at work: cell phone alarm at 6:50 am when Jerry would call to let me know he made it into his job safely.
Later that week at friend Susan’s house, when she called with a story to share about Jerry, her clock alarm went off for no reason at 9:30 pm.
Kara’s cell phone alarm went off at 5:15 am , the time Jerry would set his alarm clock to get up for work
Was this experience
difficult to express in words?
Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased? No
Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated? see above description of events
Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience? No
Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased? No
Did you see the deceased? No
Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased? No
Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased? Yes
I felt he was elated.
Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know? no
How do you currently view the reality of your experience? Experience was definitely real
Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real: There is no doubt in my mind that Jerry wanted us to know that he was OK, and that he wanted to communicate with his daughter, b/c he was not available to do so when she flew in to see him due to an unexpected turn of events.
Was the experience dream like in any way? No
Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience: Once I determined that no one was attempting to steal the car, I immediately though that Jerry could be attempting to contact us. Once my son brought over his car, and the same thing happened, I was ecstatic, b/c I knew it was Jerry.
When the smoke alarms
went off, I was terrified, as I always am when that happens, but once we
determined there was nothing burning, I knew it was Jerry letting Kara KNOW
loudly and clearly that he was OK.
Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience? N0 comment
It helped me get through the funeral service to the point that I could sing, and hold my head up, because I knew he was not in that box.
What was the best and worst part of your experience? Realizing how much I missed him, how vast he separation could be if I were to live as long as my grandmother did. The Best part was knowing that the alarms were not an accident, especially after the cars were changed.
Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience? Yes Describe: It has reinforced a belief in an afterlife, in the power of our relationship beyond life.
Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience? Yes I am less fearful of death.
Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.? Yes It reaffirmed what I believed in.
Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s). Have you ever made such a compact? No
Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later? N0 response My neighbor across the street heard the last alarm at 9:30. I saw him getting his paper in the am, and looking somewhat annoyed. He confirmed hearing the earlier alarms in a later conversation; he had not been aware of Jerry's death as he had been out of town.
What emotions did you feel during the experience? Extremely happy and consoled.
Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others? Yes
Neighbors who had bedrooms at the front of their houses also heard the car alarms, as well as one who was picking up his morning paper for the final alarm.
Did you have any sense of altered space or time? No
Did you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose? No
Did you become aware of future events? No
Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience? Yes
One morning I awoke to the smell of his cologne.
Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body? No
Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased? No
Did you see a light? No
Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above? No
Have you shared this experience with others? Yes several people said that electricity is a natural force. Others have also shared their ADC experiences with me. One friend really thought it was all too spooky until her radio alarm clock went off for no reason while we were talking about Jerry.
Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site? No
Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience? No
Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience? No
Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience? No
Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event? Yes
When I was a little girl, maybe 6 or 7, I wanted a parakeet: my parents told me to say my prayers and to ask God to send me a parakeet. One night before an approaching hurricane in the 1950's, I heard a tapping at my window, and saw that God had indeed sent me a parakeet. My parents thought I was dreaming when I ran downstairs and told them that God had sent me my parakeet.
Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience? Yes
Please offer any suggestions you may have to improve this questionnaire. A way to address multiple experiences without having to start from scratch if it is related to the same person.