Sandy R's ADC
I have one daughter living with us at the time from a previous marriage, he had twin daughters, full grown living on their own. His twins would come over for dinner sometimes.
husband and I were coming home from picking up 4 stools from the furniture store
so our daughters would have a place to sit at the kitchen counter while we
cooked and talked together. My husband stopped for gas on the way home
from the furniture store. It had snowed the day before but the roads were clear
except for along the sides. As I was sitting in the van while he pumped gas, I
heard, mentally, (not out loud) one of his daughters say to me: 'You will be sad
for a while, but then you're going to be alright.' That was all she said, but I
could not figure out which twin had said it and this bothered me because they
are so much alike. Plus, then I was struck with true sadness and grief as though
someone had died and I was mourning already. I felt this way all the way home
which was about 2 miles. We got home and my daughter said the police had called
while we were furniture shopping and to call them back. I did call them. Well,
the police came to our house and told us Desiree was dead from a car accident,
and her fiancÚ was in the hospital with serious injuries but was expected to
Was this experience difficult to express in words? No
Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them? Yes
Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased? Uncertain
Describe what you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated: The deceased said to me mentally: 'You are going to be sad for a while, but then you're going to be alright.'
Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated? The 'voice' of one the twins (I couldn't tell which one of them it was) said it inside me, in my mind. I knew it was one of the twins who said it but didn't know which one she was. Her voice was that clear in my head. I didn't hear any actual voice like from a radio or someone being vocal.
If you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the deceased made when they were alive? The sound was not in my ear. It was in my mind. It was clearly one of the twins voices.
Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? No, I doubt it. I was inside a van at a gas station and the windows were closed because it was cold and had recently snowed.
Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience? No.
Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased? No
Did you see the deceased? No
Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased? No
How long did the experience last? Once she said 'You will be sad for a while, then you're going to be alright' I immediately felt sad. I stayed sad until I got home. As soon as we got home my daughter said the police called. They came and we were indeed very sad with the news.
Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden? The beginning was sudden, with natural gradual recovery over time. Just like she said it would. For me, anyway. Her surviving twin sister is going to counseling and has yet to recover.
Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased? Yes
Confident. Certain. The way she said it was reassuring.
Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know? No, other than that I would be sad for a while and then be okay.
How do you currently view the reality of your experience? Experience was definitely real
Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real: I view my experience as real because, quite frankly, I didn't often think of my husbands twin daughters. We had picked up furniture which was for them and my daughter, but his grown daughters didn't weigh on my mind very often. I may have thought of them if he brought them up or mentioned we were getting together with them. But, for the most part...I didn't think about them very much. I liked Desiree. But I didn't have her in my thoughts regularly. When she spoke to me that day, I was surprised. I wasn't sure if it was her or her sister. Then the very real feeling of sadness overwhelmed me for no reason. I am generally a happy person.
Was the experience dream like in any way? Yes
It was dreamlike because it is hard to believe. It still feels dreamlike.
Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience: I felt confused because I didn't know which twin said it. I immediately felt sad and grieving after she said it. When I learned the truth, I was of course, beside myself with the wonder of her message mixed with grief she predicted I would have.
Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience? Yes
For me, personally, emotional healing came gradually (just as the deceased predicted) I was happy to help my husband through his grief of his daughter's death. The funeral was an eye opener, though. It went very badly and made the broken families bitter.
What was the best and worst part of your experience? The bad part was not being able to share it because it is strange but the worse part was the opening of my eyes to people who had influence in the dead person's life...what sort of people they truly are. There was some wickedness in these people, like they harbored a vengeance. The best part is that Desiree came to speak to me. I'm glad she did.
Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience? Yes Describe: Yes, this was a real eye-opener for me. I was able to see people who had relationships with the deceased much more clearly, even though I had hardly met them before.
Did you have any
changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?
Yes Yes, this was
a profound experience for me, hearing someone who has deceased at the time of
her demise tell me I would be sad, but then I'd be okay. This is not a normal
everyday experience for me. My attitude toward death and belief in God and the
Holy Trinity was confirmed.
Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.? Yes Desiree and I were not very close, but we were getting to know each other. One day, she asked me if I believed in Jesus and I gave her a resounding 'YES!' Somehow I think she picked me because upon her death, she knew in my heart that I do believe in Jesus. I don't know why else she would have chosen me to speak to at her final breath!
Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s). Have you ever made such a compact? No
Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later? No
What emotions did you
feel during the experience?
Wonder, awe, extreme sadness, grief.
Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others? No
Did you have any sense of altered space or time? No
Did you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose? Yes
A 'sense' of knowing because of the voice I heard plus the sadness I felt.
Did you become aware of future events? Yes
Only that Desiree told me I would be grieving and recover soon.
Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience? No
Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body? No
Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased? No
Did you see a light? No
Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above? No
Have you shared this experience with others?
Yes It is hard to tell what they thought. I have only shared my experience with others who are like minded, my true friends, who also believe in God and Jesus. They have their stories to share with me, too.
Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site? No
Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience? no
Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience? No
Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience? No
Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event? Uncertain
When I was 6 years old, I often played alone in a creek near my home in Georgia. One day, I walked downstream further than I normally had and I came upon a most wonderful statue with a fountain of water and the sun and light was causing a cool rainbow. Maybe I hit my head or something. That is the only time I ever had a spiritual event. :)
Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience? Yes
Please offer any suggestions you may have to improve this questionnaire. not at this time.