Sarah F's ADCs
Was the date of the
experience significant in any way?
My grandfather, Sam,
came to visit about a month after I gave birth to my oldest son.
Details of location of experience and your activity at the time of experience: With my grandmother, Anne, I would smell her on and off for about five years after she passed. Her smell to me was one I would describe as "stale" perfume, i.e. perfume that had been sprayed on the day before, but had blended in with her natural scent by the next morning. Sam, my grandfather, came to visit me about a month after my son was born. I believe he was coming to meet him. He was a smoker. He would smoke with his car windows rolled up, so he had that embedded in smoky smell. My father, LeRoy, came to visit with a house full of people a week and a half after his death. My friends came to my mother's house to help write thank you notes. Out of nowhere, with no one physically doing it, the TV came on to my dad's favorite TV station, Fox News. The TV had not been turned on since he had passed and did not turn on the rest of the time I was at home.
Degree of bereavement for deceased immediately prior to the experience: Moderate sadness and/or grief feelings
Degree of alertness immediately prior to experience: Fully alert
After your experience, did you consider the contents of your experience: Wonderful
Have you had multiple experiences? Yes three
Was this experience difficult to express in words? No
The only frustrating thing I have found is those who doubt what I am saying is true.
Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased? No
Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased? No
Did you see the deceased? No
Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased? Yes
What smell, scent, fragrance or odor did you smell? My grandmother, a "stale" perfume scent as described earlier.
Was the smell, scent, fragrance or odor familiar? Yes! Absolutely!
Was anything communicated by the smell? Nothing
Is there any possibility that the smell, scent, fragrance or odor was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? No
How long did the experience last? My grandmother's was maybe thirty seconds to a minute each time. My grandfather's was about five minutes. I remember just inhaling my grandfather's scent
Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden? sudden
Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased? No
Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know? no
How do you currently view the reality of your experience? Experience was definitely real
Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real: These experiences were as real as any other experience I have had. I was fully alert each time and knew and understood exactly what was going on.
Was the experience dream like in any way? No
Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience: Happiness and love with my grandparents. In particular, I did not want the experience with smelling my grandpa to ever go away. With my father, I was shocked, but extremely happy! Plus, I laughed...it was so "him" to do something like turn the TV on when my friends (who were his friends, too...he loved those girls) were there. It was a way of telling us that he was there and was enjoying the time spent together in love just as much as we were.
Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience? Yes
What was the best and worst part of your experience? The best was that they happened. The worst is that they have not happened more.
Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience? Yes Describe: I am more certain now with what I have always believed.
Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience? No
Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.? Yes They reinforced my belief that we do live on even after we die on earth.
Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s). Have you ever made such a compact? No
Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later? No
What emotions did you feel during the experience? Love, happiness, but sadness it was over. I want it to happen again.
Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others? Yes
Anne and Sam no, but my mother and brother have also smelled my grandfather-the same smell I would smell. With my father, there were 15 of us at my mom's house.
Did you have any sense of altered space or time? No
Did you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose? No
Did you become aware of future events? No
Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience? No
Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body? No
Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased? No
Did you see a light? No
Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above? No
Have you shared this experience with others?
Yes Most were open to it, but some have been doubtful.
Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site? No
Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience? No
Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience? No
Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience? No
Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event? No
Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience? Yes