Shelley R's ADC
I can't outline them here and now...as I've mentioned above, several of my stories have been outlined in my blog at http://flutterby-whitebutterfly.blogspot.com/ I haven't got the time to tell them here.
Details of location of experience and your activity at the time of experience: These experiences have occurred in various ways and places. One in the kitchen of my house, one in the family room of another of our homes while I was sitting on the couch visiting with a friend....she was aware that something extraordinary had occurred. One while I was in bed, but awake in a mountain cabin. There have been others, in other places.
Was this experience difficult to express in words? Yes
The experiences are sometimes very difficult to explain....not because I can't find the words to tell in literal terms what has occurred...but because they are multilayered experiences that come with otherworldly means of communication and feelings that are not translatable. Part of what makes the experience authentic and "real" is the overwhelming spiritual feeling that is not definable or expressible. My efforts to tell the experience results in the loss somehow of the beauty and singularity of it.
Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased? Yes
Describe what you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated: I heard everything in my "mind's ear" or it was communicated telepathically to me. Sometimes knowledge and understanding of something would descend on me and I would just "know" something that was whole. Something it would have taken a long time to hear, learn and "know" in the earthly way of learning and communicating.
Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated? I described this in the box above.
Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? NO.
Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased? Yes
One time I felt my Son who had recently died get into the bed next to me and put his arms around me. I also felt my husband's touch in my hair after he had died. When he was alive he would often gently touch my hair...I felt that for weeks after he died.
Was the touch familiar or unfamiliar? Familiar. I described this in the above box.
Was anything communicated by the touch? LOVE. Tenderness, concern.
Is there any possibility what you felt was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? NO
Did you see the deceased? Yes
I have seen my deceased son and husband in two kinds of dreams. There are the kinds of dreams that I call "common" dreams. These are the fragmented, disjointed, often bizarre dreams that we all have very often. I believe these "common" dreams reflect the issues, fears, concerns, hopes etc. that we have in our wakeful periods, and are reflected in our dreams. The other kind of "dream" is much more rare; it is the kind of "experience" that feels real; it has a sequence of events that follow each other in a more logical way....even though what is experienced in the "dream" can be otherworldly and fantastical if measured against our awake reality. These "dreams" are (I believe) instructional and are real visits and messages, meant to help us, or inform us.
How clearly did the deceased appear? I was sitting up on the couch in my family room talking to my friend. Behind her was a large painting where the glass was reflecting the room instead of showing the painting through it because of the lighting. I saw movement in it, and looked up over my friends head. I saw a perfect reflection of my recently deceased husband walk across the room. I jerked my head to my left, which is where he'd have had to bee to be reflected that way, and of course I didn't see him there. My reaction was so striking that when I looked back at my friend, she was white as a ghost and said: "Shelley, WHAT DID YOU SEE?!"
How much of the deceased did you see? I saw him from his abdomen up past the top of his head, because that was what the reflection in the glass on the painting would have caught if he'd been alive and walking in that place in the room.
Did the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died? He appeared to be in his early to mid thirties. His hair (which had turned kind of gray) was the light brown it had been in his thirties. He looked younger in the face too.
How healthy did the deceased appear to be? He looked perfectly healthy in the reflection....he had died of stomach cancer and because he couldn't eat, he looked in the end very emaciated.
Is there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? NO
Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased? No
How long did the experience last? seconds? Hard to tell, it felt like a "timeless" or "out of time" moment....I've had this same sense of "out of time" before with other experiences.
Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden? sudden
Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased? Yes
I had been talking about Jim and was being kind of maudlin....I got the impression that he was thinking...."well, I've heard enough of this" He didn't seem mad, just matter of fact, laid back and sort of in his "here's Shelley being Shelley, but I love her anyway" mode.
Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know? NO.
How do you currently view the reality of your experience? Experience was definitely real
Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real: I was WIDE awake, I'm a normal, reasonably bright person. Fairly practical, even cynical about some things. I am not religious, though I do believe in the existence of another plane/dimension...perhaps innumerable dimensions.
Was the experience dream like in any way? No
Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience: I was reminiscing about my husband to a friend, I was relaxed, feeling sad, then went to feeling wonder, surprise, amazement as the event unfolded in front of me.
Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience? Uncertain
What was the best and worst part of your experience? It was what it was....I can't think of a best or worst.
Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience? Yes I don't fear death.
Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.? Yes It confirmed what other of these experiences have shown me...that "life" is eternal, that love and relationships transcend death, that the spirit plane/dimension is all around us.
Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s). Have you ever made such a compact? Yes
When my husband was dying, I asked him to be with us after death to guide and help us along. I've had multiple confirming experiences that have shown me that he is absolutely doing what I asked him to do.
Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later? Uncertain
What emotions did you feel during the experience? Happiness at seeing him, amazement, joy, and wonder.
Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others? Yes
In two or three of the cases, my three year old daughter (she is now 17) was aware of my recently deceased son's presence; and she gave me information he wanted me to have.
Did you have any sense of altered space or time? Yes
I was "out of time' time did not exist in that place/moment
Did you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose? Yes
I felt that all was well, I was feeling no emotion....only mildly interested in what was happening to the "me" in the pool.
Did you become aware of future events? No
Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience? Yes
I have been more intuitive, I have had many experiences of spirit, and have had some (a few) premonition type experiences.
Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body? Yes
This has happened a few times for me...once when I was 4 and had a shallow, brief near death experience. I was drowning in a pool, I felt a burst of panic as I want under the water. I remember (like it was yesterday) sinking to the bottom, looking up at the surface above me, then everything got very bright and peaceful, and next thing I knew I was above the indoor pool near the roof, watching my uncle wade through the water to where I was. He had a look of almost panic on his face, and I watched as he picked me out of the water and put me on the side of the pool. I then went back into my body and choked and gasped as my parents stood over me arguing about who was supposed to be watching me.
Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased? No
Did you see a light? Yes
Not a light at the end of a tunnel as described in so many NDEs; but I was surrounded by light and peace.
Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above? No
Have you shared this experience with others?
Yes People are polite, I don't know that they believe or take seriously my experiences when I've told them.
Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site? No
Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience? NO
Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience? No
Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience? No
Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event? Yes
I have outlined this in a box above.
Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience? Yes