Stan K's ADC
I was sleeping soundly
but suddenly had a very vivid dream. In the dream I was in a house; not the
house I lived in, but one that in my dream was my residence. I heard a knock at
the door and answered it. To my surprise when I opened the door I was met by
Fred. (Fred was a fellow police officer who trained me when I came on the
department. We had a friendly and professional relationship and I always
respected Fred. Unfortunately, Fred contracted lung cancer and died within a
year of being diagnosed. I had seen Fred lose about 90 pounds during the
illness and age well past his 54 years of age. He had always been a very robust
individual who kept himself in great shape. When Fred died I was saddened but
not devastated as we were not close friends.) When I saw Fred at the door he
was the picture of great health; his hair was thick and black, he was his robust
self, and looked about 35 years of age. He was dressed in a police uniform that
was a standard uniform but also in pristine condition. Although there were some
other individuals standing to his rear, I didn't recognize any of them or pay
too much heed. I greeted Fred excitedly and happily like one would greet any
friend that you hadn't seen in a long time. We exchanged some pleasantries but
suddenly Fred's demeanor changed to something much more serious. Fred told me
that he had come to tell me some very bad news. I grew concerned and asked Fred
what the news was. Fred then told me that he now couldn't tell me. I was taken
aback and kept asking him what the news was growing more frantic. Fred then
told me that he could not tell me the news but I would know in three days. He
began to walk away as I woke up. I was somewhat upset for a short time about
the dream but went back to sleep a short time later. Three nights after this
dream, almost at the same hour, I got a call from my department. I was told
that an officer on my shift had suffered a heart attack while at worked and had
passed away. My mind raced immediately back to my dream and I knew this was the
news that Fred came to give me.
Was this experience difficult to express in words? No
Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased? Yes
Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated? It was during a dream and seemed like normal verbal communication.
If you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the deceased made when they were alive? I immediately recognized the voice as being that of Fred.
Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? No
Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience? No
Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased? Yes
We shook hands and I patted Fred on the shoulder.
Was the touch familiar or unfamiliar? Normal handshake and greeting.
Was anything communicated by the touch? Just normal joy and friendliness that one would express upon seeing an old friend.
Is there any possibility what you felt was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? No
Did you see the deceased? Yes
Great looking, sharply dressed, healthy. About 35 years of age. I even commented on how well he looked.
How clearly did the deceased appear? Completely normal in everyway.
How much of the deceased did you see? Whole body.
Did the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died? Deceased appeared about 20 years younger, 70 lbs. heavier, and in great physical shape.
How healthy did the deceased appear to be? Very healthy
Is there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? No
Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased? No
How long did the experience last? It is hard to put a time on a dream but the encounter would have lasted just a few minutes in real time.
Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden? I suppose the beginning was the knock on the door, and the end when the deceased started to walk away.
Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased? Yes
At first very happy to see me. Later serious and then somewhat conflicted about the information he came to give me. Kind of like he initially was going to tell me this outright but had second thoughts.
Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know? Yes, the information that in three days I would know the bad news. In almost three days to the minute, I got very bad news.
How do you currently view the reality of your experience? Experience was definitely real
Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real: Very vivid dream that I remember to this day in great detail, including the emotions involved. I don't usually remember dreams very well and can only thing of one other that was ever this real.
Was the experience dream like in any way? Yes
I was asleep and dreaming.
Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience: First great joy at meeting an old fried. Later concern over what the bad news was the Fred was going to tell me.
Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience? No
What was the best and worst part of your experience? The joy of seeing Fred, the bad news he came with.
Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience? No
Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience? Uncertain Somewhat, although I have always believed in an afterlife and that events will unfold as they are meant to.
Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.? No
are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies
first will try to contact the other(s). Have you ever made such a compact?
Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later? Just the bad news.
What emotions did you feel during the experience? Surprised that meeting someone who had been dead for several years did not seem at all strange or frightening. Still concerned about the bad news but also wondered why Fred changed his mind and would not tell me outright.
Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others? No
Did you have any sense of altered space or time? No
Did you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose? No
Did you become aware of future events? Uncertain
Nothing like Jean Dixon, but everything seems to be unfolding as it was meant to be both on a personal level and world affairs in general.
Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience? Uncertain
Although it seems I might, I try to push these types of feelings into the background. It is hard enough coping with the present without worrying about what is around the corner. I feel that if I let myself, I would have above normal abilities in these areas.
Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body? No
Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased? Yes
Yes, Fred was with several other people in civilian clothes that were standing to his rear. I attached no particular significance to them and really paid little attention to what they even looked like other than normal people standing around.
Did you see a light? No
Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above? No
Have you shared this experience with others?
Yes With close friends who are open minded, good listeners, and non judgmental.
Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site? No
Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience? It is what it is, but the story I have related is absolutely truthful.
Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience? No
Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience? No
Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event? Yes
I had another dream just a few years ago. My mother was in failing health and my wife and I were struggling to keep her in her own home and out of nursing care. We were under great stress that was not being made any easier by conflicts with my brothers who were at odds. One brother was insistent that she be put in a nursing home. I was also very stressed about my mother's finances at the time. During a dream I was walking down a city street when I was passed by someone who I immediately recognized as my father who had been deceased for approx. 10 years. My father look extremely healthy, fit, and about 35 years old. His hair was thick and black with no signs of being ravaged by the colon cancer he died of. My father was 69 when he passed on. Anyway, he looked at me as we passed and just gave me a very nice smile and nod. I took this as a sign that we were doing ok and to hang in there. Shortly thereafter my mother passed on.
Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience? Yes
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