I think my experience is known as a "synchronicity."
When we both were working, we each had pagers. We worked out this code system to make life easier. After he became too sick to work, we still used to page each other 222-2222 to say we were thinking of each other. He paged them to me frequently... sometimes 5 times a day...even up to 3 days before he died, which was the last hour we were apart 'til the end. The date of his last page to me was 2-22-2002.
I still have a page in my personal day planner with the codes. It was written many years before he died. The code 222-2222 meant "Hi, I love you, I'm OK."
Now for the actual experience:
One day about 2 weeks after Andy's death, I hit a very low point. I was at work, and had to spend much of my day in the restroom, sobbing and crying. I prayed "I need to know he is still thinking of me. Is he OK? A few 2's would be nice." Then I told myself to stop being so silly!! I finally was able to go on with my day, and by the time I left I had almost forgotten my crying jag in the bathroom. THEN... on my way to the freeway home that very afternoon, I saw a billboard. In great big red numbers was "222-2222." I almost drove off the road! It was a business number that was so new it wasn't even in the phone book yet.
Date of experience: March 2002
Length of time between death of deceased and your experience: less than 1 month
Details of location of experience and your activity at time of experience (for example: sleeping, in reading in bed in bedroom, at funeral of deceased, driving a car to work, cooking in kitchen, etc.): Driving home from work
Degree of bereavement for deceased immediately prior to the experience (choose best response): Severe sadness and/or grief feelings
Degree of alertness immediately prior to
experience (choose best response):
After your experience, did you consider the contents of your experience: Wonderful
Have you had multiple experiences?
, At least 5
Was the kind of experience difficult to express in words? Uncertain
Did you ONLY sense an awareness or presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them? Yes
Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased? No
Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased? Every time I have one of these experiences I have the feeling of being touched on the head, neck or arm.
Was anything communicated by the touch? Not this time, but other times it was.
Is there any possibility what you felt was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? No
Did you see the deceased? No
Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased? No
How long did the experience last? The initial experience was sudden, and over within a minute. I went back a few days later and took a photo of the billboard. The bill board remained for 2 months.
Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased? Yes
Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know? I feel he was telling me "Hi, I love you, I'm OK," just like his pages meant during his life.
Your beliefs immediately prior to the experience regarding your fear of death. Moderately fearful
Your beliefs currently regarding your fear of death. Not fearful
How do you currently view the reality of your experience? Experience was probably real
Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real: Too much of a coincidence, and too many other things have happened since.
Was the experience dream like in any way? No
Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience? Yes I still miss him, but after the experience I no longer felt he was gone forever.
What was the best and worst part of your experience? The best is that it happened. The worst is that I am let down if something like this doesn't happen frequently.
Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience? If Yes or Uncertain, describe how. (For example: Has the experience affected your relationships? Daily life? Religious practices etc.? Career choices?) Yes I have enjoyed living again. I am concerned with leaving the world a bit better, just as my sweetheart did.
What other attitudes and beliefs about your experience do you currently have? Sacred Life-changing Joy Other belief The only thing I am not sure of is if the message came from Andy, or did it come from God.
Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience? Yes I started believing that somebody "beyond" cares about me, either Andy or God, or both.
Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.? Yes Unable to describe. Just a true spiritual awakening.
"Death Compacts" are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s). Have ever made such a compact? Uncertain As he was on his deathbed, I asked him, if he could, would he stay around and be our angel. He said yes, but looked worried, like he was afraid to promise something he might not be able to keep. I then soothed him by saying, "Only if you can. If not, that's OK."
What emotions did you experience following your experience? It changed my life. It was the turning point in my grief.
Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others? Yes I took a photo because I knew nobody would believe me
Did you have any sense of altered space or time? I felt surreal at the time, and for a few hours after.
Did you have a sense of knowing special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose? Yes I feel that synchronicity is an example of God's perfect universal order.
Have you shared this experience with others? Yes Everybody is awed, and most believe it is real.
Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site? Yes I posted it on an ADC bulletin board.
Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience? Just that I have pictures to prove it! :)
Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience? Yes
Please offer any suggestions you may have to improve this questionnaire. Are there any other questions we could ask to help you communicate your experience? Have a way to send photos with this questionnaire. I would send the photo of the page in my day planner, plus the photo of the bill board if there was a way.