I was living in Los Angeles in 1982 with my girlfriend Mary when she took me to meet her 72 year old father for the first time. Her dad, Bill, a life long heavy smoker was in the hospital due to complications from emphysema. Bill and I instantly got along with each other. Mary later told me her dad told her he liked me and she added that I was the only boyfriend he had met who he had immediately taken to. I was pleased.  After his release from hospital, Bill came over to our small North Hollywood apartment for a friendly dinner, but we didnt meet again. He and Mary had a disagreement and we didnt see him until he fell ill about eight months later. He was back in the hospital again, but this time it was very serious and when we went to see him, he was in intensive care. He had a breathing tube in his throat and although conscious, was unable to speak or otherwise communicate. Before we left the room I went up to him, leaned over, looked in his eyes and said Well be back.  He was blinking rapidly, moving his eyes and was clearly distressed, which I naturally put down to his physical condition. He died that evening before we could visit him again. A couple of days later, Mary and I went to his small retirees unit in Burbank to box up his few possessions. We were there for an hour or so, had loaded the car and were just preparing to leave when I had to use the bathroom. As soon as I went in I felt a strong presence in the small room. The air seemed suffused with brightness and my skin began to feel prickly. I left the bathroom and closed the door behind me. As I turned to face the built-in wardrobe to the left just outside the door, the energy presence I had felt in the bathroom became very intense and I was frozen to the spot. Suddenly, I felt a hand on the back of my neck pushing my head down and my attention was instantly riveted to a small and what would normally be an unnoticeable drawer near the floor. I knelt down and opened the drawer. In it was a lone object; a passbook for a bank account containing Bills life savings with Mary as a co-signatory. As he had not made a will and had not told us about the bankbook, it seems he wanted to be absolutely sure that she received the money.  

I had never had any prior thoughts or concerns about the existence of a life after physical death, but this was very convincing. Bill not only clearly in some way still existed, but he was able to have an effect on me in order that his intent to help his child could be fulfilled. It was an extraordinary, undeniable and profoundly affecting experience. 

Was this experience difficult to express in words? 

No

Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?         

No

Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?           

Yes

Back of the head. Felt my head was being pushed down.

            Was the touch familiar or unfamiliar?  

Neither.

            Was anything communicated by the touch? 

Look down there!

            Is there any possibility what you felt was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? 

None at all.

Did you see the deceased?        

No

Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?     

No

How long did the experience last?       

3 or 4 minutes.

Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?        

Sudden. Presence began as soon as I entered the bathroom and ended abruptly once I found the book.

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?          

Uncertain  It felt very intense.

Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know? 

He directed me to find something.

How do you currently view the reality of your experience?          

Experience was definitely real

            Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:         

I had no preconceptions or any expectations of any kind. I was directed to find something he definitely would have wanted us to have in a place I did not think to look, just as I was about to leave the premises.

            Was the experience dream like in any way?  

No

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:          

Was simply present while it was happening. As it was happening fast, I had no time to think or react.

Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?          

Uncertain

I was astounded but my partner was ambivalent. Strange, but I think she may have been a little upset he chose to contact me and not her.

What was the best and worst part of your experience?     

Best was having the experience. Worst is I think people don't get how amazing it really is and the full implications of it.

Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience?        

N0 comment           

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?   Yes     I am far more open minded about what is possible.

Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.?           

No       See 26.

Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s).  Have you ever made such a compact?       

No

Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later?         

No
What emotions did you feel during the experience?           

I felt elation and was a bit stunned. This sort of thing "Isn't supposed to happen".

Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others?          

Yes

My girlfriend was outside in the car at the time.

Did you have any sense of altered space or time?  

Yes 

Very slightly. It happened quickly.

Did you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose?   

Yes

I did feel privileged to have this experience.

Did you become aware of future events?      

No

Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience?         No

Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body?    

No

Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased?           

No

Did you see a light?          

Yes  The room became "bright" almost sparkling.

Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above?           

No

Have you shared this experience with others?        

Yes     Only my previous partner, my current partner and my daughter until now.

Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?  

No

Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience?            No

Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?        

No 

Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event?          

No 

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?              

Yes

Please offer any suggestions you may have to improve this questionnaire.   

Some questions seem redundant.