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Experience description:  

Two days after the passing of my loving father, I had an extremely clear dream of us walking together. 

The setting was in Boston's old north station in the wide area in front of the ticketing counters.  This was constructed from my memories stretching back to some wonderful times of my youth when we had attended sporting events together at Boston Garden. As we walked toward the 'train departure' area, we moved slowly, shoulder to shoulder.  He was slow and shuffling which mirrored his last weeks of debilitated health.  He was telling me how fun and wonderful it had been to have been my father and how I should make the most of every breathing minute.  Above all he was telling me that he had to move on now and that it was natural and wonderful.  That I should have no thought of sadness or worry on his account.  He regretted not being able to contact me after that time but someday I would understand everything.

we embraced, he moved through the turnstile and off to his next adventure.

I awoke, refreshed, crying with happiness and feeling a superior sense of closure and a general sense of deep peace.

Was this experience difficult to express in words?  No

Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased? Yes

shoulder, hands, embrace, kiss

           
Was the touch familiar or unfamiliar?   totally familiar

            Was anything communicated by the touch?  simple human assurance

           
Is there any possibility what you felt was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?           no

Did you see the deceased?         Yes

similar to his last living state but better.

           
How clearly did the deceased appear?            solid, normal

           
How much of the deceased did you see?       all

           
Did the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died?       same as age of death

           
How healthy did the deceased appear to be?            recent infirmities were apparent

           
Is there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?           no

Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?      Yes

            What smell, scent, fragrance or odor did you smell?           environmental odors from the train station

            Was the smell, scent, fragrance or odor familiar?     recollected if not familiar

            Was anything communicated by the smell?   old memories

            Is there any possibility that the smell, scent, fragrance or odor was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?     no

How long did the experience last?        dreamtime, 15 minutes

Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?         no.  we were there, then the dream was over

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?           Yes

certain of positive outcomes of birth, death and futures

Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know?  no

How do you currently view the reality of your experience?           Experience was definitely real

            Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:           a dream is real despite our inability to weigh or preserve it, just like all of our waking experience.

            Was the experience dream like in any way?   Yes

distortion is usually present in dreams and the environment was not to scale

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:           happy to be with my father.  typical sadness of departure, not terminal grief.

Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?           Yes

consciousness does not end with physical death and the vastness of possible experience is difficult to overestimate.

What was the best and worst part of your experience?      all good

Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience?         No      

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?   Yes     deeper belief in previously held concepts

Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.?   Yes     described above

Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s).  Have you ever made such a compact?   No

Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later?     No

What emotions did you feel during the experience?           
certainty about dealing positively with loss

Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others?           No

Did you have any sense of altered space or time?   No

Did you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose?    Yes

just a sense of continuity usually unseen

Did you become aware of future events?       No

Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience?  No

Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body?     No

Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased?            No

Did you see a light?           No

Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above?          No

Have you shared this experience with others?        

Yes     positive and accepting generally

Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?            No

 Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience?       nope

Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience? No

Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?         Yes 

similar dream after the passing of my mother

Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event?       Yes 

I meditate daily , deeply and long and many of the experiences in meditation are otherworldly but distinctly different than the above mentioned dream experience

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?                     Yes

Please offer any suggestions you may have to improve this questionnaire.    none