Wanda S's ADCs
I've experienced several ADC's after my beloved brothers death about two years ago, and decided to share a few of them even when it becomes a long report - the single events stand for their own, so there's no need to read the hole.
1) The Light at the End of the Tunnel
A few days after I had travelled home from my brother's funeral, one afternoon the elevator in our house, which has four floors, suddenly didn't function any more. It was blocked at the 2nd floor, where I live, with the light burning in its cage, as one could see through the glass window in its door. It was the first time this happened in the two years I was living here (and it never happened again since), but I didn't first think about it.
Till I met a neighbor in the staircase, who told me that a short while ago the elevator came to the ground floor, stopped only an instant, and than went straightaway back to the 2nd floor (I assume she saw it blocked here on her way to the 4th floor). Only now I looked a little consternated, but than I made a little joke and went on.
I wondered where I got the idea from that this was my brother, since I had never heard before of such experiences: I knew about NDEs, and about "strange happenings" in the moment of death, but had never heard of contacts after death. "You're crazy", I told myself, but at the same time I continued hoping that the elevator may still be blocked on my floor. Where it remained a few hours till in the evening, and than it suddenly functioned again.
But the most astonishing had still to come: Late at night I wanted to look once again before going to bed, I opened my apartment door, and here my heart nearly stood still: The long corridor (almost exactly 10 meters) lay before me in complete darkness, and at its end the light was burning in the elevator's cage!
It suddenly reminded me of the "light at the end of the tunnel" mentioned in many NDEs.
I don't know how long I stood there rooted at the spot, a little scared too, but above all happy getting this unexpected sign from him - now I had no doubts: "He is well!" - he wants to let me know that he is well! Thank you, my dear brother.
(That was on a Saturday, and on Sunday morning the elevator functioned again and still does, without anybody coming to repair it.)
2) Awakening filled with inner peace
This experience happened before the one with the elevator, only at first I nearly "forgot" it, partly due to the activity of the following days.
I learned of my brother's death in the evening, and as he lived in Italy, I was very busy for some hours packing, buying the train ticket etc., it became very late and in the morning I wanted to get up early to take the first train, probably I wouldn't sleep at all that night. But than I fell asleep, and in the morning I woke up with an inner peace I had NEVER experienced before and never again since, my breath went very deep and regular, I felt unusually well rested - I only felt this great inner sense of peace and calm.
I don't remember having had a dream, and have no explanation for this - I've always had a very close relationship to my beloved brother, so it's somehow strange to awake with this happy feeling the morning after learning he had just died.
3) The Green Grasshopper
Six weeks after my brother's death, I travelled to Italy again to visit him at the cemetery, I wanted to be alone with him. And here I noticed a green grasshopper sitting on an arm of the provisional wooden cross on his grave. I was now "sensitized" and asked myself if this could have a (symbolic) meaning. My first association was a rather negative one, I was reminded of the "ten plagues" mentioned in the Bible. In the 15 or 30 minutes I was there, the grasshopper sometimes moved, but always remained on the cross, mostly on the left side near where I stood.
Two days later I went again visiting him before travelling home. And the first thing I noticed: the grasshopper was here again, at the same place he was sitting two days before! And again he remained the whole time I was here. On the left of my brother's grave there was a second wooden cross, but the grasshopper preferred this one.
One of the first things I did when I was back home, was to search on internet for the symbolism of grasshoppers, and - apart from the "plagues" - this is what I found:
In certain regions of China, ... it was believed grasshoppers embodied the personalities of family members who were deceased.╗
Or: In Ancient Greece ... The grasshopper is also a symbol of immortality as we see in Greek myth when Zeus grants immortality to Tithonus, who was later transformed into a grasshopper (who of course, lived forever).
And: The grasshopper is associated with astral travel. They have the ability to leap through time and into space where the true mysteries of life exist. ... When the grasshopper appears to us we are being asked to take a leap of faith and jump forward into a specific area of life without fear.
4) Watch standing still while searching his watch
After his funeral I could take home only very few things who belonged to my brother. His watch was one of the most important things to me, but I forgot it in his home when we were there. About half a year later I went visiting my mother in Italy again, she had promised me to keep his watch apart for me, but now she didn't remember where she had put it. We searched the whole apartment, the cellar, garage - nothing. The day before travelling back home we started again searching, and after nearly an hour of feverish search - I MUST have the watch! - my mother suddenly exclaimed: "But what's the time?" She looked at the clock in the kitchen who showed 12.15, but her watch had stopped at about 11.30. We were rather puzzled, and a few minutes later she found my brother's watch in a drawer, together with a bundle of papers (his passport and many other papers, photos etc.), a real treasure for me! I asked my mother if her watch often went wrong, but she said it always functioned well, and so it did until my departure at midday the next day! (and also lather when I asked her on the phone).
This same day an other astonishing thing happened: my mother told me she wanted to do something that infuriated me, but I couldn't show how angry it made me (I don't want to tell what it was, something in relation to my brother). As it was a rainy day, I later went visiting the little local archeological museum, and there I spoke a little with the guardian. I only told him that I was visiting my mother, but not a word about my brother's death. We spoke about this and that, and than he began speaking of his own about the same thing my mother wished to do, and said that unfortunately (for him) that was not possible, it was legally not permitted. This was so a gross relief to me I can't tell in words, it was of the outmost importance to me - that was no accident that I went to this museum and that the guardian spoke exactly about that, surely not a "daily issue"! It was as if someone (guess who) conducted me there!
5) The marvelous rainbow
My mother gave me some recent photos of my brother, and on one of it you could see he wasn't well at all. Back home I long watched at this photo and this was the only (to be exact the second) time I wept after his death, for I wasn't there when he was so ill. Than I went out on my balcony wiping off some tears, and there I couldn't believe what I saw: a simply marvelous rainbow spanning the whole sky, I've never seen such a big rainbow from one end of the sky to the other, and after a while it became a double rainbow (and than two birds flew together over the rainbow). Don't need to tell that at this marvelous sight I smiled again out of happiness and joy. I was simply overwhelmed and full of gratitude.
6) Cemetery near my home
I sometimes go for a little walk in the cemetery near my home, in many towns cemeteries are nearly the only places left where one can "rest in peace". In this country it's no use to put a photo of the deceased on his/her grave, but in the summer after my brother's death I saw for the first time a photo on a grave - so I approached a little surprised to see who it was. This was the FIRST photo I saw in this cemetery, and as I read the name of the deceased, I nearly couldn't believe it: it was my brother's first name (not a common name at all), and it was 2012, the same year of death!
Some weeks later I found my own first name (also a very uncommon name) two rows of graves behind the one with the photo. We both have really uncommon names, I doubt they appear twice in the whole cemetery.
7) PC, Printer, Phone
In the first months after my brother's death, the noise of my printer/fax going on awoke me in the night; this happened a few times, and once just one minute before my alarm clock rang. I had my printer for some years, but that never happened before my brother's death.
I have a little picture in the middle of my PCs desktop, and one day (about one month after his death) returning to my work place at home after a little rest, the picture had disappeared while all other icons on the desktop were normally displayed. Very strange, never happened before, I feared it could be some virus and switched off the PC to restart it again. And as it started again, the picture was displayed repeatedly over the whole screen, not just one in the middle as usual (you can set such displays by hand, but I hadn't touched anything).
The first time I phoned with my mother after coming back from his funeral, the light in her apartment began flickering (I didn't ask her if this happened more frequently). A few weeks later while on the phone with her, we interrupted a short time while she went searching for an address; and suddenly I heard the strangest noises coming from the receiver: it wasn't one distinct noise, but different ones succeeding each other: like whistling, than like glass breaking, than creaking, than like a living (person or animal) breathing (this was the most scaring), and some more. As my mother was back, the noises stopped, I asked her but she hadn't heard anything; there was no TV on, and it could impossibly be an intercepted call, as the sounds were too strange and not from ONE source. This experience is the most difficult to tell, one should have heard it - and it was also the most scaring one for me.
The last happened perhaps one month ago: I was at the phone with my aunt in Italy, the TV went in the background at her home, and as she shortly went looking for her dog, I noticed that the voice of the TV speaker resembled a little my brother's voice, so I concentrated on what he said, and I heard only three words before my aunt was back: "à a better world".
Was the experience difficult to express in words? No
Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them? Yes
Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased? No
Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased? Uncertain
Describe where and how you were touched: Softly at my back, over my hair
Was the touch familiar or unfamiliar? Difficult to say
Was anything communicated by the touch? Understand it as telling me he loves me
Is there any possibility what you felt was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? Possible, not excluded
Did you see the deceased? No
Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased? No
Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased? Uncertain Not directly, but I think he wants me to know he is well and happy, and that he loves me.
Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know? No
How do you currently view the reality of your experience? Experience was probably real The very strange coincidences really happened (partly witnessed); only no 100% certainty they really were ADC's.
Was the experience dream like in any way? No
Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience? Uncertain The belief he still loves me and we will meet again one day is of great comfort to me.
What was the best and worst part of your experience? Best part: that my brother wants me to know he is well and loves me.
Worst part: sometimes it was a little scaring, but more than worth this price.
Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience? No Don't think so.
Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience? Uncertain That there exists an other realm we can't reach or perceive during our earthly lifetime. Maybe our bodily senses are a sort of "filter" letting pass only a small part of the whole "spectrum", of all existing frequencies?
Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.? Uncertain That there exists an other realm we can't reach or perceive during our earthly lifetime (but that is probably "around" us, not some other place).
Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later? No
Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others? Yes Some of my neighbors (elevator experience) although they didn't perceive it as an ADC. My mother, as her watch stood still while searching my brother's watch. My female cousin: two coincidences we both perceived as a sign of my brother (not mentioned in my report).
Did you have any sense of altered space or time? No
Did you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose? Yes Since I experienced a series of "synchronicity events" about two decades ago, I'm absolutely convinced these strange coincidences really exist: the material world somehow "interferes" with our consciousness or with the spiritual world producing coincidences carrying a deep meaning we understand intuitively (although I have absolutely no idea how this can happen).
Most of my ADC experiences have the same "quality", as if the material world "talked" to me in a symbolic and meaningful way. So I'm wondering if ADC's might be related to synchronicity events, if they might have the same source.
(I also asked myself if the deceased choose the way to communicate with us they know we understand best or we are most familiar with.)
Did you become aware of future events? No
Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience? No
Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body? No
Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased? No
Did you see a light? Uncertain The light in the elevator's cage at the end of the long dark corridor reminded me of the "light at the end of the tunnel" mentioned in many NDEs (but that's not exactly what you mean).
Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above? No
Have you shared this experience with others? Yes With few people. My mother didn't seem to be impressed (told her only the elevator experience), although she experienced an ADC in the moment of her mother's death. A friend of mine found it sensational and wanted me to participate at a séance, which I refused. Only with my female cousin I can freely talk about these experiences, and share with her her own ADC's she had after her father's death.
Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site? Yes My first two experiences on after-death.com of Bill and Judy Guggenheim (a few months after my brother's death)
Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience? Once I told my brother (and even seriously in the first moment) that I will never come, i.e. never die if it's not him waiting for me on the other side :)
Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience? No
Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience? No
Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event? Uncertain If synchronicity events can be viewed as spiritual events, than yes.Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience? Yes I think and hope so.