On the night that my
father passed away, I woke up at the exact time that he passed. He had been
pronounced dead at 4:03 am and I woke up and looked at the clock and could not
go back to sleep at the same time. I had no idea yet that he had died yet. Later
that morning at around 10:00 am, I received a phone call that he'd passed away.
I was devastated because my father and I had only just begun to know each other.
we were kept apart when I was a child and he'd gotten sick last August (2010)
and his family tracked me down and contacted me and told me I needed to come and
see him because he was expected to die. Miraculously, he recovered and we had
time to get to know each other. After finding out he had passed, I had a dream
that night. In my dream, there were these cupcakes with beautiful butterflies on
top of them. when I traveled home the following day for the funeral, my husband
and I went to the grocery store. In the bakery, we came across these cupcakes
with butterflies just like I'd seen in my dream. THEN, at the wake service for
my dad, someone had sent a nice wreath and there were BUTTERFLIES all over
it....I then started to think my dad was trying to reach me. ....After we came
home ( I live 9 hours from where he died) my son immediately went back to
school. When he came home after school, he'd been given a necklace. It was a
BLUE BUTTERFLY. I feel at peace now when I think of my dad but I still wonder if
he is trying to tell me something.
Was this experience difficult to express in words? No
Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased? Yes
Describe what you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated: My dad's favorite song has played on my radio every time I turn it on.
Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience? no
Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased? No
Did you see the deceased? No
Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased? No
Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know? no
How do you currently view the reality of your experience? Experience was definitely real
Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real: I just feel like it was completely my father. Not easy to put into words. Just a complete happy feeling
Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience? Yes
It helped me to accept him being gone.
What was the best and worst part of your experience? Worst part is realizing my dad is not hear on earth with my anymore but the best part is knowing he is with me spiritually all of the time.
Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience? Yes Describe: I feel more love
Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience? No
Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.? Yes
Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s). Have you ever made such a compact? No
Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later? No
What emotions did you feel during the experience? I was at peace thinking of my dad. I believed my dad was happy and a free spirit now.
Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others? No
Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above? No
Have you shared this experience with others? Yes most seem to think that its my dad's way of letting me know he's okay.
Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site? No
Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience? No
Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience? No
Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event? Yes
When my son was very small, he once told me he seen an angel "peeking" at me. He turned my face to the door way and told me she was standing there watching us.
Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience? Yes
Please offer any suggestions you may have to improve this questionnaire. Maybe seperate experiences into catagories....Such as "dreams", "seeing apparitions". etc instead of having one questionnaire for all experiences