When my mother was alive she and I talked at length about which ever one of us passed first, that, if possible, we would let the other know if we were Ok by some sort of a sign. My mom had been dead for 4 years and 8 days and throughout all of that time I had asked her every single day for her to give me a sign.  Perhaps she had given me a sign and I had missed it, as I have a very busy life, with a large family presence etc.

On October 28th, 2022, she had been deceased for 4 years and 8 days.  That entire day I had thought about her and how long it had been and still no sign from her. My husband and I sat down to dinner.  During dinner I mentioned that mom had been gone for over 4 years and that I would never get a sign from her, and that I had given up. During dinner my husband and I talked at length about mom and her life and our relationship. At one point during the meal, I put my palms together and looked to the ceiling and jokingly said 'Mom if you give me sign, please do not be subtle give me a sign that I will know is you.'  My husband and I finished dinner cleaned up the dishes, all except one pan that I left to soak. We two watched a movie on TV until 10:30 pm. Now my husband is early to bed and never up at 10:30pm. We finished the movie and my husband went to the bathroom to brush his teeth.  I went into the kitchen to scrub the pan I had left to soak. I was in deep thought as I concentrated on scrubbing the pan. At exactly 10:31 pm I heard a 'CLINK' behind me, something had hit the floor.  I didn't react to it as I had cleaned off the kitchen table before I sat it for dinner and had a number of items that I cleared and moved them to the buffet.  So my immediate response was nothing at all.  I assumed that one of the items I had moved to the buffet had been sitting on the edge and fell to the floor. So I continued to rinse and dry the pan, then turned to walk to the buffet to pick up whatever item had fallen to the floor. I took 5 steps and there in the front of me on the kitchen floor was a tin lid that belongs on the top of an antique salt canister that was sitting 7 feet above on my kitchen cabinets.  I have high ceiling in my kitchen and have the entire 12 feet of upper cabinets covered with various collectible items. I have never had any of the other objects move or fall to the floor and they've been up there for over 20 years. I stood there for a minute and my immediate reaction was puzzling. Then I exclaimed 'OH, my God!'. My husband quickly ran into the kitchen which is only about 12 feet from the bathroom he was using. He runs up to me and says are you OK?  I pointed to the tin lid on the floor, he looks at the lid and says 'YOUR MOM'!!

I was in such a state of disbelief.  I was not frightened, I was puzzled. My husband measured the distance from the cabinet to the floor that where the lid had landed and it was 10 feet. The salt canister the lid sat on was still in place.  It didn't roll, it didn't slide it didn't bounce it flew across the room. The only possible explanation was my mom's energy made that lid fly off. Next to the salt box there are a number of glass items.  One is a tall ceramic ewer. Those were all in their place.

The next day I notified my family members, and all came to the house and got on a step ladder and attempted, unsuccessfully to make the lid fly across the room. It merely fell straight down to the counter or the floor. No logical explanation for this occurrence. We live in the woods of northern California.  It was silent inside and outside, there was no earthquake, no door slamming no heavy equipment nothing that could have moved that lid from the top of that tin. Subsequently much family discussion has made myself and my family, even the non-believers that the occurrence was truly sign my mom.

Was this experience difficult to express in words?          No

Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them?      No

Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?          No

Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?         No

Did you see the deceased?       No

Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased? No

How long did the experience last?      Just a moment

Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?       Sudden only a second or 2

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?          No

How do you currently view the reality of your experience?          Experience was definitely real

          Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:   It was a real occurrence, no doubt. My husband was witness and all the family discussion before this occurrence and more so afterward by receiving input from various family members.

          Was the experience dream like in any way?  No

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:  We had lost our son in law to stage 4 colon cancer 5 months prior to this occurrence.  I feel the reason my mom waited so long to give me a sign, was this was the time she knew that I needed it the most.

Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience? Yes

I truly now know that this was a sign from mom.

What was the best and worst part of your experience?          Really there was no good or bad part, just puzzling with some skepticism.

Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience? Yes                Describe:     There is another realm other than our current one.         

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?      Yes    I now believe in a hereafter.

Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.?         Yes    I was a bit of an agnostic, as I lost my faith after several years of not getting a sign from my mom.

Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s).  Have you ever made such a compact?    Yes  We discussed the matter for decades.

Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later?          No

What emotions did you feel during the experience?          Disbelief and skepticism

Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others?          Yes  Witnessed by my husband, Jerry.

Did you have any sense of altered space or time?  No

Did you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose?         No

Did you become aware of future events?      No

Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience?      No

Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body?   No

Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased?   No

Did you see a light?        No

Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above?     No

Have you shared this experience with others?       Yes    My siblings and aunt and nephews and cousin believed me as they themselves have had such experiences.  My skeptical brother, children and friends are puzzled as they know me and my husband well and know that this occurrence actually happened.

Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?         No

 Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience?   There is so much that has been discovered since this occurrence that gives me even more faith that this was a sign from mom.  Way too long and complicated events to write it all down,

Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience?          No

Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?       No 

Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event? No 

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?           Yes

Please offer any suggestions you may have to improve this questionnaire.       Your questions are complete as far as I can tell.