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Experience description:

Vivid dream while sleeping - I was in my garage trying to put Christmas decorations in the attic. My husband appeared, seemed a little younger, happy, dressed in yellow polo and black slacks. He said nothing at first. I called his name and he said 'Yes, it's me'. His voice, his smile, him to a T. I asked what was he doing here. He said he had figured out a way to come back but he couldn't stay long. They would miss him and know he was gone. We hugged and kissed. He was warm and felt real. He offered to help put the decorations away. He helped for about a minute then said he had to go back because they would miss him. I asked if he could come back again. He said he would try to do it again. He faded.

I immediately woke up to find that it was early morning (maybe 6 a.m.). I was ecstatic to have finally dreamed of him (after 10 months) and it felt SO incredibly real. I went to the kitchen to feed my cat. Turned on the coffee to brew. Turned off the alarm system and went outside to get the newspaper. Picked up a couple of seed pods in the driveway and tossed them in the garbage. Went back inside. As I walked toward the kitchen, I heard loud music. I started to walk toward the noise on the other side of the house and got scared that someone was in the house because music was blasting. I realized that no one could be in there because I had just turned off the alarm system. (My cat was sitting in the kitchen floor cleaning her face after her breakfast. Hadn't moved from the kitchen.) I walked back toward the music and found a radio in the guest bedroom playing the FloRida song 'Sometimes I get a good Feeling'. I had never heard of FloRida prior to that or the song. I was kind of freaked out. The On/Off button was in the On position! Nothing else was set to come on or anything. No power surges...nothing flashing anywhere in the house. I had not been in that room for weeks. Went to get in my car to go to church, FloRida was playing again on car radio! Went to church, left to come home...hesitantly turned on radio to FloRida again! Needless to say, I heard that song many times that day and thereafter. 

What do I think? Most definitely after death communications...all of it. No coincidence. I've had other strange things happen (not from him, I don't think) in the last few years but I haven't seen him again or felt him.

 Was this experience difficult to express in words?     No

 Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them?      No

 Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?          Yes

           Describe what you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated:   It was communication ….talking, hearing, seeing, feeling through a dream; then actual music playing from radio after waking up.

           Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated?     Vivid dream.

           If you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the deceased made when they were alive?     His voice in the dream was his voice.

           Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?   No

           Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience?   No

 Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?         Yes  Hugged and kissed. In the dream. Felt real.

            Was the touch familiar or unfamiliar? It was him. His touch, his voice.

           Was anything communicated by the touch? Love, comfort, help.

            Is there any possibility what you felt was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?   Asleep and home alone.

 Did you see the deceased?       Yes  Saw him in the dream. Looked good, happy, a little younger and more relaxed. Familiar clothes.

            How clearly did the deceased appear?            In the dream, I could feel him like he was solid. He faded out at the end of the dream...quickly.

            How much of the deceased did you see?       All of him

            Did the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died?           He appeared a few years younger...looked relaxed and fresh...not unhappy and stressed.

            How healthy did the deceased appear to be?            He looked healthy. Relaxed and happy. Not stressed and tired and unhappy.

            Is there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?   It was a dream. Vivid dream. Felt real.

 Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased? No

 How long did the experience last?      No sure, maybe several minutes. The music (FloRida) after the dream lasted for weeks. Kept hearing that same song everywhere...constantly.

 Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?       Beginning was sudden, he just suddenly appeared. End was gradual, he said goodbye and faded out quickly.

 Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?          Yes

 Happy, glad to have found me, and see me again. He was relaxed.

 Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know?  Others were with him where ever he came from. They watch him or watch over him. Not sure about that.

 How do you currently view the reality of your experience?          Experience was definitely real

           Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:   If the experience with the radio and that crazy song hadn't happened, I would have chalked it all up as a very colorful dream.  Something that I needed to experience in order to find some solace.

           Was the experience dream like in any way?  Yes

 1st part was a vivid dream followed by an awake experience with a radio, music, and a repetitive song.

 Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:  Surprised by seeing him, longing for him to stay, willing to let him return to where he came from if he could come back again, really happy and relieved to see him again.  Scared when I heard the radio playing on other side of house. Cautious about going in that empty room. Confused when I listened to the words of the song. Wondered if it was a message from him letting me know he was feeling good now. Had to have been him communicating. He was highly educated and intelligent.

 Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience? Yes

 Not 100% by any means but I was able to sleep better and not as sad. Consoling experience. Puzzling experience, also.

 What was the best and worst part of your experience?          Seeing my husband was best part. Finding a blaring radio playing FloRida sealed the whole experience as real. Worst part has been waiting to see if he can come back again.

 Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience? Uncertain                 Describe:     I'm definitely more aware that there are things going on that we don't fully understand. I pray a lot more and have a much closer association with God these days.

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?      Yes    I'm certain that there is a life after death but I don't understand it anymore. I used to understand death from a Biblical viewpoint but not sure that is really what goes on.

 Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.?         Uncertain     I would like to think that this was God's hand. I'm also not sure that life after death is a Biblical as we think it is. Maybe's it's different.

 Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s).  Have you ever made such a compact?    No

 Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later?          No

What emotions did you feel during the experience?          Happiness, relief, some comfort.

 Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others?          No

 Did you have any sense of altered space or time?  No

 Did you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose?         No

 Did you become aware of future events?      No

 Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience?      Uncertain

I've had some experiences in the last 3-4 yrs that are very unusual. Even reached out to a paranormal group on the web to ask a few questions. They don't scare me but I've seen shadows. Had an experience where I tripped and felt pushed down. Felt pressure on top of my shoulders that pushed me back down once I had almost recovered from tripping. My cat has had some strange experiences and I sensed them too.  I saw movement out of the corner of my eye in a mirror. Turned quickly to look and saw a wispy form about 4 ft tall dissipate. I feel the presence of someone watching out for me. It's like a guide or guardian angel. I have incredibly strong intuition...scary sometimes. I've had the intuition for a long time though. Not as strong as it is these days.

 Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body?   No

 Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased?   No

 Did you see a light?        No

 Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above?     No

 Have you shared this experience with others?       Yes    Most people look at you like you are crazy or just making it up.  I've learned not to share too much. I have a good friend who knows exactly what I am experiencing. She has had experiences also.

 Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?         No

  Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience?   No

 Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience?          No

 Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?       No 

Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event? No 

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?           Yes