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I write this experience in two languages ​​(Spanish and translated into English), to try that everyone can understand it as well as possible.

These experiences happened to my older brother, in both cases while he was sleeping or was very sleepy. My mother fell ill with a very malignant type of brain cancer, really the worst there is. She was operated on and since her diagnosis, she alone lived 5 months, a traumatic experience for everyone, since she left very young, with only 59 years. The first experience happened on the same day she died, and around the same time. We knew that my mother was in hospice with terminal sedation, already waiting for her departure from this world, but we did not know when it could happen (the doctors said that because she had a young heart, she could take up to days) . Both experiences happened to my brother, so I tell it in the most literal way that he did. That night I fell asleep quickly, but it was difficult for him to sleep. Around 00: 00-01: 00 at night maybe he fell asleep for a second (although he didn't really realize that he fell asleep), and saw my mother enter her room as she normally would, looking healthy ( without any light, in the dark as if any of us entered a dark room at night). He moved to a chair to the right of my brother's bed, and stared at him for a few moments, then turned and walked out the door. My brother woke up and was very surprised, he had a hard time falling asleep for good after that, but he did not give it the greatest importance. The next day we were notified of the final outcome (an aunt of mine was called from the hospital, but they didn't want to tell us until the day after so that we wouldn't lose hours of sleep). Imagine the feeling when my brother told that, around the same time as his death. The death certificate showed the time of his death, 12:15 a.m. at night. I want to emphasize that my brother had never dreamed of any relative before, not even with my mother when she was ill or any other when she passed away. He usually dreams very little, and almost never remembers them when he wakes up.

The following experience occurred in the month of November. Inheritance taxes and other formalities are very expensive, so we were worried about what we would have to pay in this regard. The night before they told us the final price of the paperwork and the inheritance, my brother was sleeping face down in his bed. He saw my mother enter the room in the dark again, put his hand on her back (my brother noticed her hand) and said: 'Adrián, calm down.' Then my brother also remembered that he sang a kind of lullaby for children, as if to reassure him. The next day, the lawyer confirmed the price to pay and it was really very affordable, and much less than what we expected at first, so fantastic news.

I don't know if my brother's experiences were the result of the brain, suggestion or mere chance, but he gave us some hope that my dear mother is somewhere, waiting for us.

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Escribo esta experiencia en dos idiomas (español y traducido al inglés), para intentar que todos puedan entenderlo lo mejor posible.

Estas experiencias le ocurrieron a mi hermano mayor, en ambos casos mientras dormía o se encontraba muy somnoliento. Mi madre enfermó de un tipo de cáncer cerebral muy maligno, realmente el peor que existe. La operaron y desde el diagnóstico, tan solo vivió 5 meses, una experiencia traumática para todos, puesto que se fue muy joven, con tan solo 59 años. La primera experiencia sucedió el mismo día de su muerte, y más o menos a la misma hora. Sabíamos que mi madre se encontraba en un hospicio con sedación terminal, esperando ya para su partida de este mundo, pero no sabíamos cuando podía suceder (los médicos dijeron que debido a que tenía un corazón joven, podía llevar hasta días). Las dos experiencias sucedieron a mi hermano, así que lo cuento de la forma más literal que él lo hizo. Esa noche yo me dormí rápidamente, pero a él le costó conciliar el sueño. A eso de las 00:00-01:00 de la noche quizás se durmió durante un segundo (aunque realmente ni se dio cuenta que se durmió), y vio a mi madre entrar en su habitación como haría normalmente, con un aspecto sano (sin ninguna luz, a oscuras como si cualquiera de nosotros entrásemos a oscuras en una habitación por la noche). Se desplazó hacia una silla situada a la derecha de la cama de mi hermano, y se le quedó mirando unos breves instantes, para darse la vuelta y salir por la puerta. Mi hermano se despertó y se quedó muy extrañado, le costó dormirse definitivamente después de eso, pero no le dio la mayor importancia. Al día siguiente nos avisaron del desenlace final (llamaron del hospital a una tía mía, pero no nos lo quisieron decir hasta el día después para que no perdiesemos horas de sueño). Imagina la sensación cuando mi hermano contó eso, más o menos a la misma hora de su fallecimiento. En el justificante de defunción apareció la hora de su fallecimiento, 0:15 horas de la noche. Quiero destacar que mi hermano nunca había soñado antes con ningún familiar, ni siquiera con mi madre cuando estaba enferma o cualquier otro cuando falleció. Sueña habitualmente muy poco, y casi nunca los recuerda al despertarse.

La siguiente experiencia aconteció en el mes de noviembre. Los impuestos por herencias y otras gestiones son muy caros, por lo que estábamos preocupados por lo que tuviésemos que pagar al respecto. La noche anterior a que nos dijeran el precio final de los trámites y la herencia, mi hermano estaba durmiendo boca abajo en su cama. Vio de nuevo a mi madre entrar a oscuras en la habitación, le puso la mano en la espalda (mi hermano notó su mano) y dijo: 'Adrián, tranquilo'. A continuación mi hermano también recordó que le cantó una especie de nana para niños, como para tranquilizarle. Al día siguiente, el abogado nos confirmó el precio a pagar y realmente fue muy asequible, y mucho menos de lo que esperábamos en un principio, por lo que fantásticas noticas.

No sé si las experiencias de mi hermano fueron fruto del cerebro, sugestión o simple casualidad, pero nos dio algo de esperanza de que mi querida madre se encuente en algún sitio, esperándonos.

Background Information:

 Was this experience difficult to express in words?     No

 Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them?      No

 Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?          No

 Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?         Yes

 As I explained in the experience, my brother noticed how my mother touched his back and calmed him down (he was sleeping on his stomach at that time)

            Was the touch familiar or unfamiliar? Familiar

           Was anything communicated by the touch? Calm and love

 Did you see the deceased?       Yes

 According to my brother, the two times he saw her (you were in the dark, but he can see her outline quite well), my mother appeared healthy as she used to be, with medium-length hair as she used to have

            How clearly did the deceased appear?            Solid, totally normal. As if anyone else walked into your room

            How much of the deceased did you see?            Everything, but as I say, not totally clear because it was night both times

            Did the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died?           Similar age, a little before his illness perhaps (a few months or a few years before)

            How healthy did the deceased appear to be?            He looked normal, healthy, without a trace of disease

            Is there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?   No. We live alone, and I was sleeping when my brother experienced these events.

 Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased? No

 How long did the experience last?      Uncertain. My brother says that it was very fast, a matter of seconds perhaps

 Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?       It was a process, but very fast. How long it can take for a person to do these actions (enter a room and leave, touch the back and say 'calm')

 Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?          Uncertain

 Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know?  My brother did not receive any information. In the second experience he was calmed down by my mother, just the day before they told us how much we had to pay for the inheritance

 How do you currently view the reality of your experience?          Experience was probably real

           Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:   There are days when I doubt the reality of these experiences. Years ago, before I was born, my family had an experience with my grandfather a few months after he passed away (they smelled his smell in the house for a while, then disappear), so I had always thought something like this was possible. My brother never really believed in it, and he actually believes a little more but doesn't really care. Was it by chance that I had those 'lucid dreams' at those specific times? Hard to believe, therefore I think it's possible it was real

           Was the experience dream like in any way?  Yes        

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:  I count this based on my brother's feelings. In the first experience, the night my mother passed away, we were obviously worried and sad. In the second experience, the feelings were not so negative in his case, he did not have a particular emotion beyond sleeping to go to work the next day

 Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience? No

 What was the best and worst part of your experience?          The best experience was seeing her, and experiencing that contact. The worst, doubting if it was a product of the brain or something else

 Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience? No     

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?      Yes    Possibility of some kind of life after death

 Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.?         No     

Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s).  Have you ever made such a compact?    No

 Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later?          No

What emotions did you feel during the experience?         A mixture of sadness because he is no longer with us in this world, and of hope because he may be in some other

 Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others?          No

 Did you have any sense of altered space or time?  No

 Did you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose?         No

 Did you become aware of future events?      No

 Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience?      No

Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body?   No

 Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased?   No

 Did you see a light?        No

 Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above?     No

 Have you shared this experience with others?       Yes    In my case (his brother), I was quite surprised and he gave me, like him, a mixture of sadness and hope that my mother could be somewhere. In the case of my father and my aunt, as I said before, they had had some kind of experience with their own parents when they passed away, so it was not so strange.

 Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?         No

  Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience?   No

 Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience?          No

 Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?       No 

Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event? No 

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?           Yes