I am relaying this story from my sister. She is about 3 years my senior, and she would never be on a website like this so I thought I would share. I know with my passing interest in this I often read ADC and NDE stories, and while they are amazing and give so much hope, they are hard to believe for anyone with a scientific mind. My sister has the same outlook. She has told me this story multiple times without variation. Her take on it is that while it could be just a dream, it was odd how structured and clear it was, and the content of his message was something I'm not sure would have occurred to me (hence the message).

My grandfather died on Christmas Day 2017. Our family is very close, and he was loved as much as any other member. Nothing about his death was surprising, he was sick for a long time, but it was still incredibly emotional. That said, the younger generation of my family now have their own kids, so we certainly grieved but as the weeks went by life just floods back in. I wouldn't say anyone was distraught or wracked with grief at the time this occurred.

This was in the summer maybe 6 months after he died. My sister had a dream my family was having a cookout which is basically a weekly event for us, as we are all so close. She said there was nothing unique about the dream, it was just your standard run of the mill, scattered, visually clear but inconsistent experience. Suddenly she noticed my grandfather was sitting in a chair at the cookout so she went over to him. These are here exact words in an email to me:

I asked, 'Why are you here? I don't understand how you got here?' He responded, 'I had to come back to tell you something. All of this stuff that you are worried about, all of the things you guys fight over and get upset about, it doesn't matter. None of that stuff matters. Just be happy.' Then I just sort of said 'okay,' and he responded, 'I have to go now and I can't come back.' He seemed very happy, but also very frustrated that we were all being caught up in everyday drama. After that I never saw him in a dream again.

How long did the experience last?      A moment

Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?          Gradual but also sudden, it woke her up.

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?         Yes

He was happy, but also quite annoyed.

Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know?          Sort of. Information that seems obvious upon self examination, but was not a concern at the time.

How do you currently view the reality of your experience?          Experience was probably real

          Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:   It is easy to write off a dream. There was nothing in and of itself that would bring a supernatural element to reality, but the content and staying power of the dream made it feel real.

          Was the experience dream like in any way?  Yes

It was a dream.

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:          Happy seeing him, taken aback but his annoyance.

Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?          Yes

Maybe not a healing, but a lot of us who she shared the story with thought it was nice. Nice to think he is somewhere and happy, and that he's watching us. Also, we had sort of a chuckle that he would be annoyed with us over trivial things. That was maybe his exact wheelhouse - getting crazy over small, daily slights in life.

What was the best and worst part of your experience?    Seeing grandpa, worst was it ending abruptly and being told he couldn't come back.