Pam F ADC
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Experience description:

So we took my brother off life support around 9:30 pm on a Sunday.  He passed away very soon after.  As we were going back to our hotel my husband and I were..."We need a DRINK".  And on Sunday night at midnight, right?  Good luck with that.  So we stopped at a quick mart and the guy can't sell liquor so he says, 'Those guys over there can help you'.  So we go over to a liquor store, with 4 hooligan gangbanger-looking dudes hanging around out front.  Bronco Sunday so they're open late, lol. We thought, 'How bad do we need this drink?'  YES, that bad.  So we go in, buy our stuff, turns out one of the hooligans are running the joint and we told him about our day.  He told us that he was 24 and that his parents were both killed when he was 21 so had a good cry together.

Got to the hotel.  Hubby had 2 beers, I had 2 glasses of wine.  He went to bed.  I was on the couch when a very real physical rush came over me from my head to my feet, and then I heard OUT LOUD, my brother's voice, saying, 'It's OK, Pam', and the a few seconds later another physical rush, and then I was back to being the lump on the couch.  I asked my husband, 'Ed just talked to me - did you hear that??' and he said no...so it was for sure telepathic, but it WAS HIS VOICE. 

Why he came to me?  I don't know...what a gift though.  He had so many good friends and our parents adore him....  I will treasure his gift to me forever.

 Background Information:

 Date of experience:          10/17/17

 Length of time between death of deceased and your experience:  3.5 hours

 Was the date of the experience significant in any way?    no

 General geographic location of experience:  Lakewood CO

 Details of location of experience and your activity at the time of experience:        Sitting in a dark hotel room after a couple of drinks curled in a ball on the couch in shock that my baby brother was dead

 Degree of bereavement for deceased immediately prior to the experience:  Severe sadness and/or grief feelings

 Degree of alertness immediately prior to experience:        Fully alert

 After your experience, did you consider the contents of your experience:  Wonderful

 Have you had multiple experiences?   No      Was this experience difficult to express in words?     No

 Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them?          No

 Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?       Yes

           Describe what you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated:          I heard his voice, in English...just like we'd been sitting in a tap toom together.  Totally normal.

           Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated?          I thought it was out loud and totally normal, but when I asked my husband, he hadn't heard anything.

           If you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the deceased made when they were alive?    VERY REAL.  iT WAS HIM.

           Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? No

           Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience?       No

 Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?       Yes

 I felt a very physical 'Whooooosh'

            Was the touch familiar or unfamiliar? Never felt it before

           Was anything communicated by the touch? No, just got my attention, lol

            Is there any possibility what you felt was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? NO..NOT AT ALL.

 Did you see the deceased?       No

 Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased? No

 How long did the experience last?      Maybe 10 seconds

 Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?      sudden

 Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?          Yes

 He told me it was ok.

 Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know?          No.

 How do you currently view the reality of your experience?          Experience was definitely real

           Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:   I was dead on arrival in a shooting when I was 17 years old.  That was in 1977.  I did not experience anything at that time, but I KNOW my brother came to me. to me.  NEVER felt anything like it, and to hear his voice 3+ hours after he died?????  It was real.

           Was the experience dream like in any way?  No

 What did you feel (while awake) immediately prior to your experience?            
           
Sad     
       
Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:  Numb

 Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience? No

 What was the best and worst part of your experience?     Best, he talked to me, worst, I can't talk to him anymore.  I've tried to call him back but he's gone....

 Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience? No     

What other attitudes and beliefs about your experience do you currently have?

Grateful that he chose to talk to me     

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience? No      Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.?          Uncertain     No

 Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s).  Have you ever made such a compact?         No

 Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later?         No

What emotions did you feel during the experience?          Numbness, awe

 Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others?          Yes

 My husband had gone to bed, I was awake and in a ball on the couch.  I asked him, "Did you hear that?!?"  and he said no.

 Did you have any sense of altered space or time?  No

 Did you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose?         No

 Did you become aware of future events?      No

 Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience? No

Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased?   No

 Did you see a light?        No

 Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above?     No

 Have you shared this experience with others?  

Yes    Very positive; it was a gift from my brother

 Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?       No

 Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience?          No

 Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?    No 

Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event?     No 

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?                     Yes