Todd B ADCs 2530

I was living in New York, NY trying to make it in the music business with my rock band. I was living far from home where I was born and raised not far from Seattle, Washington. On December 4th 1990 my world was shattered. I received a phone call from my mom telling me that my beloved sister D'Lea was killed in a car accident. The shock and grief was absolutely mind-shattering. Life would never be the same.

The next evening, my band mates (we lived together in a studio apartment at the time in lower Manhattan also known as The Village) were out for the evening. I believe I just wanted to be alone in my grief. I remember lying on my futon just thinking of my sister. I had a digital clock next to me with big red LED display. The phone rang. It startled me because it was late. I looked at the clock and the digital display read exactly 12:00AM.

I thought it was either a wrong number (our phone rarely rang) or one of my band mates needing something. I picked up the phone and all I heard was a loud, static sound like white noise. I kept saying "Hello? Hello? Is anyone there?" Nothing. Just this loud sound of static. I finally hung up. I went back to my futon and laid down again not really thinking much about it. Then the phone rang again. I looked at the clock. It was 12:15AM precisely. Again, I got up and answered the phone. Same thing. All I heard was a sound of static. After saying hello, is anyone there several times, I once again hung up.

Then the phone rang again. Again I look at the clock. 12:30AM exactly. Same static noise. I then wondered if either a) someone was trying to talk but I couldn't hear over the noise. Maybe one of my band mates was stuck in a subway or something with the train(s) going by or b) someone was prank calling me. This went on at EXACTLY 15 minute intervals to the minute all the way until 3:00AM which was the last call. Nobody would be prank calling that precisely for that long. By then I KNEW it was my sister trying to reach out to me. While I never did hear her voice audibly, I felt it in my Soul it was my sister trying to say goodbye the best way she knew how. A couple years later I came across a book about spiritual communication and one chapter was devoted specifically to spirits using the phone to attempt to communicate.

I had several contact dreams with her those first few years after her death. They felt entirely lucid and different than regular dreams. She would also show up as a butterfly which was my symbol at the time for her. She loved Stevie Nicks (and looked a lot like her in life actually) and I remember one day driving down the road thinking of her and feeling grief welling up again when the song "Rooms on Fire" came on the radio suddenly. With the lyrics:

I FELT my sister in that very moment. It was her! I knew it like I knew the sky was blue and the grass was green. A few months ago it happened again. This time I was sitting at my computer working on a client project and I felt her presence STRONGLY. Just then, Adele's "Hello" came on my Pandora channel I was listening to. The words felt perfect as if she was saying them to me using Adele's song:

I have had many other experiences also involving my father who died 6 months after my sister. I KNOW life continues. Our Souls are eternal and the only thing that matters is LOVE. It is the bond that binds us all.

MOM'S ADC - Shortly after my sister D'Lea was killed in a car accident (12/4/90) my mom was in a grocery store doing some shopping. She told me it was the first time perhaps since the accident that she wasn't thinking of her. She needed the distraction of a mundane activity to temporarily ease her grief. She said when she was walking down an aisle when suddenly she heard D'Lea's voice, as plain as any speaking voice, as if she was right next to her ear, say: "Mom, I'm okay."

That was it. Nothing more was said. Now if you knew my mom you would know she is not one to ever make anything like that up. She's always generally been skeptical of the unknown, paranormal, etc. So for her to admit this was quite something.

MY ADC WITH MY DAD - Six months after my sister was killed, my dad was also killed in a car accident sometime around Memorial Day Weekend in 1991. To this day I have always believed he died of a broken heart. D'Lea was his "Dolly" and the thought of her being gone I believe literally killed him.

I was staying with my Mom temporarily around that time and I remember we were struggling to find if he had any life insurance policies. My mom was convinced he did take out a policy years before but we both assumed the payments were likely not kept up and that was that. My mom finally came across this paperwork related to a policy but it was dated in the early 1980's and after reviewing we both assumed it was likely void. She stuffed it in her purse and we both more or less forgot all about it.

One morning I had this incredibly lucid dream. I "woke up" to see my dad standing next to my bed with a big smile. He didn't say anything but motioned me to follow him downstairs, which I did. He proceeded to walk over to my mom's purse, picked it up, and took out that paper work we had forgotten about and handed it to me, again with a smile. I immediately woke up, ran down stairs and excitedly told my mom who was in the kitchen making breakfast that dad came to me and showed me that paperwork to validate that indeed that policy was still valid.

The purse was in the exact same spot it was in my dream when my dad picked it up and handed me the policy. My mom eventually called and in fact the policy turned out to be valid and we received over $5,000. Not a substantial amount I know, but it was something, and my dad wasn't a man of much means before he passed so I have no doubt he wanted to make sure I got whatever I possibly could.

MY 2ND ADC WITH MY SISTER - In addition to the ADC I reported on this website in June 2018, I had another experience I feel was absolutely my sister. I had been staying with my mom temporarily and was sleeping on her couch at the time of the incident. My mom had a bunch of greeting cards with various designs as decorative art she had taped to some of her cupboard panels. One night I was laying there, it was dead quiet. I was thinking about my sister when suddenly one of the cards fell from being taped to the cupboard. It was loud and jolted me (due to how quiet and late it was).

I got up to investigate, and lying right there in the middle of the kitchen floor was one card, lying face up. The design on the card was a photo of a statue of an Angel. In that moment I wept. I knew without any doubt whatsoever that it was my sister reaching out to me, letting me know she was still watching over me.

ADCS WITH JOE - Joe was a good friend of mine who died unexpectedly of liver failure in 2008 at the age of 40. It was a huge shock to all of us in his circle of friends. Joe was one of those guys who was a Man's Man. He had incredible charisma and was always the one people gravitated towards. The last person you would expect to die so young.

He had a wonderful dry wit and sense of humor. He could get any of us in stitches with his inside jokes, wit and comments. Unfortunately tragedy struck his family who he was very close to (His mother was deteriorating with MS and his father was diagnosed with Leukemia). This sent him into an uncontrollable spiral of drinking and depression until his liver gave up.

We used to go on house boat trips with friends. Joe liked to sleep on the top of the house boat at night. One morning he excitedly told us that he woke up with a Hummingbird staring right at him just a couple feet away. Each morning he would talk about this Hummingbird showing up and hovering, looking at him. Teasingly, we said, "Suuuuure, Joe, whatever you say." It became one of the inside jokes the rest of the trip.

Not long after he died, myself and his best friend Jim (and others) would see Hummingbirds, like all of the time. Jim said one day he was looking out his kitchen window when suddenly a Hummingbird flew right up to the window, hovered for a minute just staring at Jim. Being a skeptic, Jim didn't think too much of it. But one time he was out on Puget Sound fishing with his Father-In-Law. There was no land around for miles. Nothing but water. He said suddenly a Hummingbird flew right up to their boat and hovered, again just staring at him for several moments before flying off. Finally Jim had to admit, "That's Joe."

Joe came to me several times after he died in what I call "Contact Dreams". These are different from regular dreams. I can always tell the difference. They are lucid and stick with you unlike regular dreams do. In one, Joe was trying to show me his frustration of trying to get his wife and our attention. He showed himself in a chair that rocked, rocking away...Then suddenly he was gone, but the chair was still rocking. I asked him, "Do you have any Guides with you?" I was trying to ask if he needed help crossing over. I knew he would want to be close to his wife. He said, in such typical Joe fashion;

In these contact dreams Joe would always be wearing a Pittsburgh Steelers jersey. As a diehard Seattle Seahawks fan we got a lot of mileage teasing each other about our NFL team affiliations. I another contact dream I felt like he had finally crossed over and was showing me around. I don't recall too much but I do remember hearing beautiful music that was just everywhere. I couldn't figure out where it was coming from, almost like coming from all around, 360 degrees. There were people milling about. It was pleasant, but felt like kind of a temporary place before moving on to main destinations.

MISC. ADCS - After our beloved cat Stanley died, I got up one night to go to the bathroom. Suddenly I heard Stanley as plain as day make the little meowing sound he would make when he was being affectionate. It was unmistakable. I wasn't half asleep, I was wide awake, the house was perfectly silent. Stanley came to say goodbye.

After our beloved Boxer Bella passed away we were so heartbroken but decided to get another Boxer puppy months later to help ease our grief and bring life back into our home. Baylee is almost 3 now but in the past couple years there have been numerous times Baylee will be playing with a ball or something, and suddenly yelp, or turn around quickly looking toward her rear-end. As if she just got nipped in the butt. This has happened too many times to be a coincidence. Baylee is sweet but she can be a little turkey at times, where Bella was literally the perfect dog.

Background Information:

Was this experience difficult to express in words?     No

Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them?          Uncertain

Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?   Uncertain

          Describe what you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated:     I heard nothing but static on the phone. Like white noise from a TV station that has gone off air.

          Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated?    Phone call with nothing but static but I eventually felt certain it was my sister trying to communicate with me. It was the day after she died.

          If you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the deceased made when they were alive?        N/A

          Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?      I thought perhaps it was one of my band mates calling in a subway with the train going by but then I realized it wouldn't be a constant sound for that amount of time.

          Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience?     None.

Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?   No

Did you see the deceased?       No

Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?       No

How long did the experience last?      Started at exactly 12:00AM and would continue in precise 15 minute intervals (12:00AM, 12:15AM, 12:30AM, 12:45AM, 1:00AM, etc.) until 3:00AM which was the last call.

Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?          Precisely the same from start to finish.

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?         Uncertain

When I finally realized it was my sister attempting to communicate I could sense her frustration that she could not project her voice loud enough over the static so I could hear her.

Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know? No.

How do you currently view the reality of your experience?         Experience was definitely real

          Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:   Well physically, I know it happened. I was not dreaming. I wasn't even tired. I was wide awake with unbearable grief.

          Was the experience dream like in any way? No

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:        Just overwhelmed with grief as I had just learned the day before that my beloved sister was killed in a car accident at age 25.

Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?          Yes

Not right away but the experience became an essential building block in my spiritual awakening that occurred in 1993.

What was the best and worst part of your experience?    The best was the sudden knowing that it was my sister trying to communicate. The worst was that for whatever reason (perhaps my own wall of grief which is most likely) I could not hear her voice audibly. The white noise or static was just too loud.

Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience?      Yes                      Describe:     It was a catalyst experience that seemed to fuel my desire for spiritual growth and truths that perhaps had I kept my course or life trajectory at the time may not have otherwise happened.

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience? Yes    Just that there was more to life than what it appears on the surface.

Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.?         Yes    It may not qualify as proof in any scientific sense, but deep down it was proof for me that after death communication is real.

Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s). Have you ever made such a compact?         No

Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later?        Yes Yes, I verified with my friends, family and band mates that it was not them trying to get a hold of me during those hours.

What emotions did you feel during the experience?         A sense of mystery and wonder. I KNEW in my heart it was my sister attempting to communicate with me.

Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others?         No

Did you have any sense of altered space or time? No

Did you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose?    No

Did you become aware of future events?      No

Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience?           Yes

Not necessarily directly following the experience but I have had several premonition dreams that came true, specifically airplane crashes. Between 1992-1998 I could predict imminent plane crashes. I could describe the type of plane (737, 747, etc) and the color of the livery and the general area and nature of the accident. I told my then girlfriend, friends and family of these and within two weeks they would come true. That freaked everyone out. I have also had lucid, contact dreams of a friend of mine who died. He told me how frustrating it was trying to get her wife and our attention. At one point he even said in these exact words when I asked him if he had a guardian angel with him to help him cross over: "Yeah they're trying to get me to go be with the spirits and shit." LOL, that was Joe.

Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body?          No

Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased?          No

Did you see a light?        No

Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above?        No

Have you shared this experience with others?

Yes    They were very respectful and most agreed it was likely her.

Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?   Uncertain

I may have somewhere years ago but I do not recall now where.

Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience? No

Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?          No

Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event?    Yes

I have had many conscious OBEs since I was a child. Contact dreams with departed friends, family or people I knew. My dad came to me after he died to show me where his life policy was.

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?                    Yes

Please offer any suggestions you may have to improve this questionnaire.          Perhaps just offer it in a format for those of us who have had multiple experiences. Otherwise it is concise and well done. Thank you for the platform and all of your work in helping enlightening our species that life does not end with physical death.