In 1996 our daughter Janne was hit by a car and killed. This happened in Copenhagen. The first year and a half after her death I had quite a few unexplainable experiences, which occurred frequently especially when I was “down in the dark hole.”

I have never previously had experiences that I wasn’t able to explain rationally. After Janne’s death I encountered experiences which I had no sensible explanation for.  

A month to the day after Janne’s death, I had the following experience. The digital clock, which is built into our gas cooker, was blinking with the numbers 00.00. This can only happen as a result of a power cut. The electrical socket was placed behind the refrigerator, which made it impossible to switch off the power without pulling out the refrigerator, neither is it possible to set the clock at zero by using the clock’s switches.  My initial thought was that there had been a power cut. I set the clock and went into the living room to set the other two electric clocks, which were both depending on power from the mains – but they showed the proper time.

This set me wondering. For the first time in my life I experienced something for which I could not find a logical explanation. We only have a 220 volts power supply in the apartment. This just could not happen.     

A couple of days after this incident, I tore the old kitchen down and put the cupboards out on the landing, ready to be carried down. The sun was shining and there was plenty of light on the stairs. On my third trip down the stairs with the cupboards, the lights in the stairwell suddenly came on. Only on the top landing, where there is only a small window, would one notice that the lights had come on. I stopped and listened but there was no sound. As I had just returned from taking down the last lot of cupboards, I knew that there was nobody else on the stairs. I went right down to the basement door and checked that there was nobody there either. There was no one but me on the stairs.  I was puzzled and started making a record of these incidents.

One day, when I had driven to the main office, I noticed, when I got back in the car, that there was a strong scent of the perfume which Janne sometime used.   My sense of smell is not very good, but this scent was so powerful that I could clearly smell it. After a few seconds it gradually eased off.  There was nobody else near the car.

Shortly after this episode I was sitting in my office. I had just finished talking on the phone to a solicitor and was writing a brief note about the call. As I wanted to date the note I looked at my watch to check the date. It showed the 26th. I noted the date but suddenly realized that it was wrong. It could not be right. A quick browse through my calendar showed that the date was the 22nd. The date on my watch had taken a four day leap ahead. The button that sets the date was in its normal position.

On one of the last times Janne had come with us to see her grandmother, she had persuaded us to stop at a McDonald’s restaurant on the way home.   As we were driving home on the highway from a visit at my mothers, the first since Janne’s death, I suddenly felt a heavy object against my right leg. My first thought was that it was Ilse’s handbag, which had slipped down. Out of fear of it blocking the pedals I reached down to remove it, but surprisingly I reached into thin air. There was nothing.  A few seconds later the McDonald’s sign showed up.

In the end of August, we were going on a camping holiday to Italy with my sister and brother-in-law. We had arranged that, we would spend the night at my mother’s, and then drive on to the ferry the following morning.  We were up early the next morning. I had just taken a shower and was about to have my morning coffee. My watch was in my pocket. As I took it out, the backing had come off.  It normally requires special tools to take the backing off.  I had, especially in the first year after the accident, several experiences where the hands or the date on my watch would leap ahead in time.

I had started doing a bit of gardening again in the second summer after Janne’s death. At some point I looked at my watch, the time was just after ten. Shortly after, Ilse called out that she had made coffee. As I sat down to drink my coffee, the news on the radio started. It was ten o’clock. My watch had leaped seventeen minutes ahead.

We had given Janne a stereo rack as a present for her eighteenth birthday. After her death we put the stereo in our living room. We later experienced that the radio would turn on by itself.   It also happened that our TV turned itself off.

On the 22nd of November – eight months to the day of Janne’s death – we had another curious experience.  When we left for work in the morning, we left the radio on at low volume for the cat, something we’d done many times before. Ilse turned it off when we returned home at around 4 p.m. Later on that evening I noticed that the clock on the radio was flashing with the numbers 14.46. There had been no power cut and the radio was playing as we arrived home.

Another occurrence happened on the last day that we had our 14 year old car – a car which had transported Janne to numerous places. We were on our way home from visiting some friends, when Ilse suddenly exclaimed: - What’s the matter with the dashboard clock now?  The clock, which had never failed before, had taken a four hour and thirty-seven minutes leap ahead.        I have a set of rituals every night before I go to bed. My wallet has its regular place with my car keys on top, and of course we turn off all the lights before we go to bed. One November morning – a year and a half after Janne’s death – we came into the living room, and the light above Janne’s picture was on. On top of my wallet were Ilse’s keys, and my car keys were in her coat pocket. If we imagine that we might have forgotten to turn the lights off the night before, we would in any case have been able to see the gleam from our bedroom. That Ilse by mistake should have switched the keys is unthinkable, because Ilse doesn’t drive and anyway, we had not been out that night.

At home in our apartment I went through a period where I repeatedly experienced that one of my legs suddenly became freezing cold. This icy sensation lasted normally for about a minute.

When I think back on these unexplainable experiences, which occurred frequently in the first year and a half after Janne’s death, it comes to mind that Janne was helping us by indirectly saying: ”I still exist, but in another world.” 

Four years after her death my wife and I had a powerful experience, when Dea – who was a friend of Janne – came to visit. She brought us a tape-recording from her mother, Lis.  Dea’s mother had through a friend been told that a Scottish lady, who is a medium, was coming to town. Dea’s mother had booked a séance with the Scottish lady, to come into contact with her mother.  During the séance the conversation suddenly took an unexpected turn. The medium said amongst other things:

- Your daughter is her name Joanna or Janna?

- No her name is Dea. Short pause.

- Who was Joanna, Janna, Janne? She says; “I miss her.” It’s your daughter she’s talking about. 

- My daughter had a friend who was called Janne. She died in a car accident.

- Lis, your mother has brought Janne because she needs a little help. Did she die two years ago?

– No, I think it was four years ago.

- She says it was not long ago. Your mother has helped her to understand where she is. She says “I did not suffer.” This has been a great worry to her mother and her family. Was she killed in a car accident, where there was a car and a bicycle? I can see the wheels. And she says “A car and a bicycle.”

– Yes, she was riding her bike when a car hit her.

- She says the transition was very quick: “I left my body just before it was hit; only my body was hit.” It is of great importance to her that this message gets through to her parents, as they have grieved tremendously and had many worries about whether she suffered. I can feel where her body was hit. Do you know if she died straight away?

- Yes, she did.

- She says that some time before she died she started to give some of her things away, because she knew she would not need them.

- I get the word “nurse,” was she training to become a nurse?

– No, she was training to become a doctor’s secretary. 

-This wonderful girl Janne says “Thank you for letting me through. Your mother brought me here. You have no idea how difficult it is to communicate. Your mother helped me.”  There is something about a young man. Do you know if Janne had a boyfriend?

- Yes, I think so.

- She has been trying to contact him. She would very much like to contact her parents to tell them that she still exists, they just cannot see her. If you see her parents will you please give them this message from her?

- Yes.

- It was very important for her to get through, because she never got the chance to say goodbye.

Never before had we received a message, which moved us as deeply as this one did, because the Scottish medium had never heard about either Janne or the accident.  

Clairvoyant  -  Marion D

Amongst the messages we received from the Scottish medium, was also an encouragement to contact a medium ourselves. During a visit to London in the autumn of 2001, we had the first opportunity to do this.   At this time, we feel the need to stress:  That we had not previous met Marion That we gave her no information prior to the séance That we, during the séance, only confirmed or denied Marion’s information This is a short summary from our sitting. 

Soft and tranquil music is playing in the background. We are sitting in Marion’s comfortable living room. Marion exclaims: - Yes, I hear you Turned towards us, Marion says:  - There is a young girl who would like to get through. The back of my head hurts, and so does my right upper arm. There is something about a hospital; did somebody die in a hospital?

- No, we answered. Marion continues: - I feel a jolt on my right side; something has hit her. She says; “I did not suffer, I left my body quickly.” She is very sorry that she never got to say goodbye. She says; “The accident was not my fault – nobody is to blame.” Did you go to a hospital to identify her?

- Yes, we went to a hospital to identify her.

- There is something about food, did she just eat, or was she unable to eat anything?

- She had been visiting a friend and had eaten dinner there.

- There were several people around her when she died. Not the ones in the car but some other people. Did you know this?

- No, we didn’t know this but it is possible. - You were there when she was laid in the coffin. You put a lot of things into the coffin with her. They were put on both sides of her. She laughs and says; “They almost stuffed it down around me. It is still with me.” You also put something very personal inside that she cared a lot about. Amongst the things put there were some letters. There was a pressed flower in one of these letters. Did you know this? 

- No, we didn't know what was in the letters. They were put in with all the things that had been placed at the scene of the accident. Among other things there were quite a few teddy bears. The personal item could be one of her own teddies or her silk sheets which she liked a lot.

- Who is named Åse?

- That doesn’t ring any bells.  

  (Åse is not a common name anymore, but was used in the old days).

- But there is an Åse because I keep getting the name so she must be there. Remember to ask Janne’s friends when you get home. Apparently, it is important.

- Who is Marianne? - That does not ring any bells either. - Was your daughter good at English? Some of the information is delivered to me in English.

- Yes she was.

- What was the name of your daughter? 

- Her name was Janne.

- It is possible that I have picked up the name Marianne instead of Janne (my name is Janne = Marianne). You have a very large picture of her on the wall in your living room, almost like a painting. It feels like she is following you with her eyes when you walk around the room.

- Yes, that it correct.

- She is singing a song now. It is the Danish song; “I Østen stiger solen op.” Does that mean anything to you?

- Yes, she practiced singing it a lot when she was training for her entrance examination at the music school.

- You have either a cat or a dog at home. It’s sick; there is something wrong with its liver. You have to prepare yourself that it won’t be around for much longer. Janne will receive it when it crosses over, because animals go to the other side too. – Yes, that’s true our cat has a sick liver, it is on diet foods.

- She is talking about her grave now; you have a candle burning there.

- Yes.

- Some of her friends have placed different things on the grave, not that long ago something very beautiful was placed there along with a wreath or a heart. That brought great joy to her.

- Yes, that’s correct. A very beautiful poem was laid down along with a wreath and a teddy bear.

- There is something about her room. What have you done to her room?

- We have moved her belongings to another room.

- She laughs and says: “All my things are still there.”

- Yes, they are still there.

- She says it will be her birthday soon.

- Yes, in twelve days.

- Kjeld did Janne owe you money?

- No.

- What is it then, with the twenty-five Danish crowns? Ilse smiles and answers; 

- On the last night as Janne was leaving, she came up to me and said; “Mum I didn’t get to the bank today and I don’t have any cash. Can you lend me some change?”   I had twenty-five crowns on me, which I gave her.

After our visit at Marion’s we asked several of Janne´s acquaintances if the name Åse meant anything to them but without result. One evening Janne´s friend Dea came visiting.

- Does the name Åse mean anything to you? Ilse asked.

- Yes, Dea answered. That was my grandmother. She was the one who helped Janne send you a greeting through the Scottish medium. 

A couple of months after our visit to Marion we had to have Janne´s cat “Jaymiz” put to sleep, due to its illness. 

Sounds

Shortly after our visit to London, we began hearing sounds from our Kitchen.

In the old kitchen the cupboard doors had magnetic locks and the sounds from the kitchen were a bit like the click sound that occurred when the old cupboard doors were closed.   In the beginning we only wondered what the sounds were, but after a short while a pattern formed. They occurred between 9 o’clock and 10 o’clock p.m. or shortly after we had gone to bed. Sometimes the sounds where very loud, and they were often repeated up to six or eight times with a few minutes between them. After a while I began answering by saying “Hi Janne” which normally resulted in the sounds stopping.   If we had visitors the sounds did not take place, but would start after we went to bed, even if the time was past midnight.  One evening after we had gone to bed there was a weak drum-like sound to my left side, a sound that was like someone drumming their fingers against the table top. I turned to my wife and asked:  - Do you hear what I hear? - Yes, I think so, there’s a drum-like sound, Ilse answered. The weak drumming sound started to move and was right in front of us. Shortly after, it was to our right side. The drumming sounds lasted maybe less than a minute and we never heard them again.

During spring we moved to our summer house, but the sound did not follow us.  When we sometimes slept in our apartment for a single night, the sound had gone.  When we moved back in the autumn, it took a few weeks before the sounds came back, and the following year, when we again moved to our summerhouse, the sound followed us out there, and came now from the kitchen there.

In the autumn we moved back but this time the sound did not follow us back. One afternoon I went to the summerhouse for cut the grass, at one time I was sitting in the front room drinking a cup of coffee when there was a noise from the kitchen, like a glass toppling over on the kitchen table. I had become accustomed to strange sounds and I answered; “Hi Janne,” the sound repeated itself within a few seconds. “Is there a natural explanation to this?” I thought and said out loud; “Can you repeat it?” after about a minute it sounded like a glass full of pearls was tipped on to the kitchen table.   That was the last I ever heard to the sounds.  At no point has it been frightening. On the contrary, it has been a comfort; in the sense that it has been part of letting us know that there is another world too.

After about one year my wife and I we wrote a book about losing a child. I believe it help us too, because you do not write a book like that without crying you force yourself to put words on your feelings.

Clairvoyant  -  Nita S (Scottish medium)

In the early spring of 2003 we had our first opportunity to visit the Scottish medium.  She neither speaks nor understands Danish. And she didn’t receive any information prior to the séance either. Just as we only confirmed or denied Nita’s information during the séance. Before we left home we talked about bringing something which had belonged to Janne with us. Ilse found her gold bracelet and a small gold crucifix but eventually decided only to bring two photographs of Janne, which she had in her purse.  The sitting, which lasted about an hour, was taped and this is a short excerpt;

 Nita started by telling us that she had been concentrating on the upcoming sitting for about 15 minutes before we arrived. There had been 4 spirits present, of whom one was a young person, who had a wonderful radiation of the color pink. This person was in very high spirits and eager to get through.

- Yes, you have a child in the spiritual world. Have you lost a daughter? - Yes. - In her room lies – either on a chair or on her bed – a large teddy bear, not a real teddy bear but more like an animal. She says; “It’s still there.”

- Yes on her bed is a large walrus teddy.

- She is talking about some new clothes she has just bought, which she was wearing when the accident happened. Had she just bought a new T-shirt?

- Yes she was wearing it.

- She was annoyed that it had been ruined by blood.  She says; “Mum spoke to Christine the other morning and I was with you.” Who is Christine?

- It is her cousin and yes it’s true, I meet and talked to Christine the other morning. - You have recently looked at some old pictures she painted as a child.

- Yes we had them framed and hung them on the wall. - She says; “There are so many pictures of me in the apartment but I’m alone in all of them. There are none with the three of us together.” You have a picture, which was taken on a holiday – a snap shot with the three of you together. You have to put it in the small frame with gold edging. Where do you have a small frame with gold edging? - It is in our kitchen. - She asks me to thank you for all the candles that have been lit for her. Shortly before your daughter died, she knew that something big was going to happen. Dad’s grandmother received her. She recognized her from pictures she had seen previously. She also says; “And then I saw Michael.” Who is Michael?

- It doesn’t mean anything to us. *

- She knew Michael when she was younger but then he disappeared out of my life she says. - We don’t know.

*     Michael could be a boy around Janne’s age. They were playmates when they were about 6 – 8 years old. At some time, Michael and his family moved from the area. We have later been told that Michael died when he was about 16 years old.

- She says; “I didn’t feel any pain and I wasn’t afraid. I asked Dad’s Grandmother where we were going to and she said that we were going home.” Was she hit by a car?

- Yes.

- Do you know if she was killed instantly?

- Yes she was.

- She tells me that there was a memorial service at the school she used to attend. She was very pleased by this. There is something about a house that you considered selling. She is happy that you didn’t do it. Did you have a dog or a cat? - Yes, we had a cat. - She says; “It’s with me right now.”

- Yes we are sure about that. Nita stretches out her hand and shows Ilse a gold bracelet and says:  - Your daughter says that you have one just like it and that you have a gold crucifix too. She says that you have them but the real ones are with her. She also says; “I had a good life but my time with you was over. It was not an accident but my time had come to an end. I had no control over what happened. There is a time to be born – and a time to die and no one can change that.”  You have a lot of her toys. Amongst other things you have a doll sitting somewhere and you have a piano in your living room on which she used to play.

- Yes, that is all correct.

- Shortly after her death you went on vacation to Venice and a couple of other places. “I was with you,” she says.

- Yes we went camping to Venice and some other places.

- Who is Anne? - That doesn’t mean anything to us.

- What was your daughters’ name? - Her name was Janne.

- Oh I’m sorry. I heard it as Anne. It can be difficult to get hold of names sometimes because their communication is so unbelievably fast compared to ours.  She thanks you for her grave being so beautiful. There is a tree at one side of the grave; it blooms in spring with some very beautiful flowers.

- Yes it’s a Japanese Cherry tree.

- She says; “I’m not there but it’s my little garden.”

- We know that she is not there.

- She says she likes what you have done with the bathroom. What have you done?

- We had it modernized last year and we had the walls painted in a color that she liked.

- And Mum has got a new bedspread, it’s very pretty.

- Ilse laughs and answers “Yes I changed the bedspread last year.”

- She also tells that you were met with a lot of sympathy from a lot of people when she died. Your home was filled with flowers on the days after her death. She says; “It looked like a florist’s”.

- Yes, our living room was filled with flowers.

- Janne loved flowers because they are pure spirit and it’s easier for a spirit to visit places where there are living flowers. 

Where Janne is now, she is working as a kind of nurse to help those who have recently died and who don’t know that they are dead. And also, those who have come over very weak and who need recreation. She is in a kind of a hospital or convalescent home, which is made of rocks that can breathe and it contains all the colors there exist. She says; “It's so wonderful to be able to explain to them that they are not dead but simply living in a different world.”   Janne goes to concerts too, she loves music. It is known that many great musicians have passed over to the other side and they still like to play. And the tickets here are free, she says laughing. She also says ""Thank you” for the words you have written in her memory. Where did you write her name? - We have written a book. - Yes, it is a book and with it you help others. Through your book you have contact with others who have also lost a child. Amongst them you have come in contact with a person whose son died from a drug overdose. It was not an accident. Somebody had to learn from his death so that they could meet at the same level later on. There are different levels on the other side. To be able to meet you have to be on the same level. You can compare it to that rich and poor on Earth do not socialize because they are not on the same level.

- Yes amongst others we are in touch with a person whose son died from a drug overdose. 

- Everybody who dies young gives generously from themselves, so that others can learn, the death of all children is a lesson to others. Nothing is a coincidence. The young man, who drove the car, which killed Janne, had an agreement that he would help in the right time and the right place. You see everything is very complex but still very simple. You are here now to help others and you receive a lot of help from the other side. Janne died so that you could learn, and so that the three of you can meet at the same level later on. She is a very old and a very beautiful soul. Your daughter has a great sense of humor. She says that there were two police officers at your apartment shortly after the accident and that one of the officers was young. “He was good looking,” she says.  “Dad has given up smoking,” says Janne. She is pleased because she did not like the smell. But you still have an ashtray on the table.

- Yes, I gave it up a couple of years ago. And yes, we still keep the ashtray on the table for our visitors. 

- She talks about receiving a card for her birthday.

- Kjeld’s brother and sister-in-law place flowers on her grave for her birthday and such days. There is a card for Janne with the flowers. - She says "Thank you, I receive it." - You went to church at Christmas and you lit a candle for her. It made her very happy. - Yes we were in a church where we took part in a very beautiful memorial service shortly before Christmas, which had been arranged by the Parent Association “We have lost a child,” and each couple lit a candle for their child. 

- How is your leg Dad, did you fall on the stairs? - Yes, I fell on some stone stairs a couple of weeks ago, but I am fine now – Thank you. - And how is your hair Mum? - It is fine again - Does one of you have a brother or a sister that has had cancer? - No, it’s me. I had Radio- and chemotherapy.

- Now I understand why she asked about your hair. 

She says that your cancer has cleared up now. It happened after the accident because then – in your sub consciousness – you absolutely did not care whether you lived or not. But it was important that you finished your life and Janne sent many doctors and healers to you. - Did you ever hear the doorbell ring without anyone being there?

- Yes, it has happened a couple of times. - You have also had sounds coming from your kitchen. Janne says; “Am I smart or am I just smart”?

- I do not believe what I hear – this is incredibly – Yes, we have had a lot of sounds from the kitchen. When Janne was at school she sometimes used the phrase; “Am I smart or am I just smart.”

Turned towards Ilse, Nita says the following;  - She tells me that you have two photographs in your purse that you would like to show me. After I showed Nita the pictures she says;  - Janne is asking you to buy a bunch of tulips and a bunch of daffodils on the way home. Put the two bunches in the same vase. She says; “Dad will have to pay for the flowers but they are from me.”  

Development

In the first four years after Janne’s death, we thought sometimes; “will we receive a message from Janne, if we contact a medium”? We were a little bit skeptical, and we would probably have continued in being so if we hadn’t been given “a shove.” 

When we received the first very precise message from Janne, about four years after her death, through Dea’s mother and the Scottish medium Nita S, Janne gave us the impression that it was difficult for her to communicate with the physical world. Nita heard the word “nurse” in a communication, and asked if Janne had been working as a nurse.  During our visit with Marion D, we sensed a development in Janne compared to the first message.  At our meeting with Nita S – seven years after Janne’s death – we clearly sensed that a further development had taken place. The communication flowed quickly and with an incredible amount of details, for instance about what had just happened at our place. And we were told that Janne was now occupied as a “kind of nurse,” the word, which in the first message had made no sense at all.  Nita S finished off by saying that it was always a pleasure communicating with young people because they were always surrounded by so much energy.  To us these messages have a priceless value. They have been of tremendous help – getting us through our grief.  

Clairvoyant  -  Billy C (English medium)

In the spring of 2004 I read in a magazine called; “Horoscope” that the English medium Billy C was in Copenhagen. I called his contact to make an appointment. The contact told me that there were two free appointments on the following day and that we would see him separately.  As before, the sitting was taped and of course Billy C received no prior information either.  We presented two very short résumés, with Kjeld being the first to meet Billy C.

- There is an elderly lady here; she is not that tall but a bit plump. I am being told that she is your grandmother. Was she like a mother to you? - Yes, I grew up with my grandparents and the description of her fits. - You have an interest in the spiritual world. Did you write a book?

 - Yes.

- There is a new book on the way!

- Yes and no. I am in the process of editing the second edition of the book.

- Who lost a child?

- We did.

- There is a young girl coming through now. Your grandmother knew her. You have a photograph of your grandmother holding her in her arms.

- Yes, that it correct. It was taken at her christening – a month before my grandmother died.

- Who is Anne?

- My daughter’s name was Janne.

- Ok. It is hard to tell the difference. She was a smart girl and very liked. A girl with a love of order, and a girl who now and again needed to withdraw herself to be alone.

- Yes that’s correct.

- Who is Kirsten? - It could be a colleague.

- That makes sense. She sends greetings to Kirsten. - Did a car hit Janne?

- Yes.

- It was particularly her head that was badly injured.

- Yes.

- You have been to Italy camping after her death. She tells me she was with you.

- Yes we have been told that before.

 - She was very fond of animals. Did you have a cat because I get a picture of her holding a cat?

- Yes.

- Could Janne on occasion be a bit impatient?

- Yes.

- She says; ”So can you.”

- Yes I have to admit that.

- Was Janne good at working with computers?

- Yes.

- Are you good at it too?

- Yes I think I am reasonably good.

- She says she was better than you are. Kjeld laughs and answers; “Yes she definitely was.”

- The book that you are writing on is about your daughter. It has the purpose of helping other people who are grieving. She says: Thank you.   

 Shortly after I have left the sitting, Ilse arrived.

 - Janne is still here but she is with your mother. Your mother thanks you for dinner and asks you to remember her like she was. ” Please don’t remember me like the old fragile lady. My legs were hurting and I could not eat. That wasn’t me.”  She also thanks you for taking good care of her. Janne was an elegant girl who had spiritual ideas.

- Yes that is true.

- There is an object in your living room which used to belong to Janne – something about ”a funny toy” or something about ”funny hair.”

- Yes, we have Janne’s old cabbage patch doll sitting in our living room.

- Who in your family wants to visit Australia?

- My husband would like to visit Australia because he lived there when he was young.

- Was Janne on a diet before she died?    

- Yes she was.

- There is a lot of humor in Janne, she says: “You have given up.”     Ilse laughs.

- Who had the prettiest funeral service? - Janne did.

- Who had the white funeral service then?

- My mother did.

- Your mother and Janne are having a bit of a laugh about it. Janne had red roses and your mother had white roses.

- Yes that is correct.

- Who is Súsanna?

- It could be a girl in the spirit world but we don’t know her. We correspond with her parents.

- Please tell her parents that she came through and said:  "Thank you." Because they wouldn’t visit a medium themselves.

-  No, possibly they wouldn’t, but I am sure the greeting will bring joy to them.

-   She had a tragic death. Some kind of accident, I can feel the blow.

-   Yes.

-    Súsanna says: “Please tell Mum and Dad that I’m okay.”

-    We will do that.

-    She was youngster – a teenager?

-    Yes.

-    Did a car hit her because I can feel the blow?

-    Yes. -    Was Súsanna driving a car herself?

-    No, I believe it was something about an ex-boyfriend who was jealous and ran her over. *

- I feel that he was intoxicated or on drugs or something like that. It makes sense out of something I told your husband earlier, that she knew the man who ran her over. Please let her parents know that she came through and that she sends them her love. - We will do that.

  * Susanna was driving her own car when she was hit by her ex-boyfriend.

- Who is Mikkel? -   It might be a young man from the spiritual world. His parents are coming to visit us tomorrow.     - Mikkel ask that you bring a greeting to his parents. -   We will do that.

Background Information:

Date of experience:         there are many dates

Length of time between death of deceased and your experience:        it lasted over several years

General geographic location of experience: Copenhagen Denmark

Details of location of experience and your activity at the time of experience:  working, contact via Mediums, sitting in living room, driving a car,

Degree of bereavement for deceased immediately prior to the experience:          Severe sadness and/or grief feelings

Degree of alertness immediately prior to experience:        Fully alert

After your experience, did you consider the contents of your experience:          Wonderful

Have you had multiple experiences?   Yes    more than 30

Was this experience difficult to express in words? No

Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them?          Yes

Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?   No

Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?   Yes

During meditation I often felt a touch on my forehead,  and I sometimes felt one of my legs became like ice for a few seconds

            Was the touch familiar or unfamiliar? I never had that feeling before

          Was anything communicated by the touch? no

            Is there any possibility what you felt was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?      no

Did you see the deceased?       No

Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?       Yes

          What smell, scent, fragrance or odor did you smell?        perfume

          Was the smell, scent, fragrance or odor familiar?  yes her perfume

          Was anything communicated by the smell? no

          Is there any possibility that the smell, scent, fragrance or odor was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? no

How long did the experience last?      approximately  over 4 years

Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?          the beginning was sudden and the end gradual

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?         No

Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know?          Through a medium she gave a lot of information, but we knew. (read the attached from mediums)

How do you currently view the reality of your experience?         Experience was definitely real

          Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:   They happened over a long period and I was always fully awake, there is absolutely no doubt.

          Was the experience dream like in any way?  No

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:        As above it depends on which experience, sometimes I could be relaxed, but the experience in the beginning came when I was sad or grieving.

Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?          Uncertain

If I felt really sad and felt "down in a dark hole" and something unexplainable happen I suppose it got me back up.

What was the best and worst part of your experience?    There was no worst part. They were all good experiences and the all helped me back on my feet. Today I live a totally normal life.

Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience?      Yes                      Describe:     I don't think anyone there is living through the experience of loosing a child can say it did not change me. Of course it did. Emotionally I am a different person today. For instance I can no longer stand up and make a speech, the emotion takes over and tears are coming. I do not know why but that's how it is. I am a more soft person today.   

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience? Yes    I do not believe that God is the father figure as decribed in the bible, but will quote Spinoza who once said: "God is not Him there is, buy It there is"

I believe in an intelligence in the universe, I can not describe it further (I am one of the ants)

Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.?         Yes    After the unexplainable event happens, I started to read books about spirituality especially about people there had an Near Dead Experience.

Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s).  Have you ever made such a compact?         No

Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later?        Yes Most of the meetings with mediums was recorded.


What emotions did you feel during the experience?         It felt better sometimes even a little happy

Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others?         Yes

my (now deceased) wife

Did you have any sense of altered space or time?  No

Did you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose?    No

Did you become aware of future events?      No

Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience?           No

Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body?          Yes

During meditation (Hemi Sync) I sometimes felt that I was hovering a little over my body. I will not describe it as out of body exp.  but merely, as I was laying down, it felt like I was half way out but locked there.  Also during Hemi sync meditation I could sometimes see colors, I could sometimes feel like an inner body there could roll from side to side.

I should also mention that during the period, where I used hemi sync meditation (which lasted for about one year) I could no longer enjoy a glass of wine, it tasted awful even the good wines. actually all other forms for alcohol gave me headache. A few months after I stopped meditation I could again enjoy a glass of wine to my food.

Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased?         No

Did you see a light?        No

Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above?        No

Have you shared this experience with others?      

Yes    I shared it with my family some collages. I think they thought I was a little weird, very few commented on it.

Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?   Yes

Quora, where I have told about the mediums and the sounds.

 Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience?          I believe the meditation helped me. I was good at letting out the grief, I cried a lot at the time. I believe that helped me too.

Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience? No

Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?          No 

Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event?    Yes 

This occurred in October 1998. I had gone to bed and was going through some of the exercises from the Monroe Institute CD's in my mind. After a short while I felt vibrations going through my body. These vibrations could not be described as "chills up and down your spine." On the contrary, they can best be described as being very powerful, very fast pulsating vibrations. My estimation is a minimum of 30 pulsating beats per second. The vibrations can start at your head and go downwards, or start at your feet and go upwards. My vibrations started at my head after which they " like a ring " moved down over my body. I only remember that they reached as far as my stomach, and then I slipped out of the state and found myself in the basement of the house.   As I went up the stairs to the gardens, I carefully touched the wall and felt the concrete. I was fully aware that I was outside my physical body and I thought that this was "just wild." I was also aware that I was only wearing underwear, but this didn't bother me. I noticed that it was night time and continued on to the street. A couple of cars drove by but I didn't pay any attention to them. I thought, and felt, that this was just as real as when I physically walked along the street. I had to go to work the next day and I felt it was time to get back into my body and have a proper night's sleep. I looked at my watch the time was 01:50. How would I get back to my bed? Could I ring the front door bell? Would Ilse be frightened? A few meters from the front door, it dawned on me that I could get back into my physical body simply by concentrating on it. I therefore concentrated with my whole mind on doing this. In that instant I was back in my bed, wide awake.  I lay there for a few minutes, thinking through the chain of events. I had at no point been afraid and had neither felt cold nor warmth. There was no doubt about the experience being as real as when I physically was on the street. I had been able to see, hear and feel, and a few minutes ago I had seen that the time was 01:50. How I had been able to bring my watch I did not know. It was dark in the bedroom but I had to see what time it was now and turned on the lights.  My watch showed 01:55.

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?                    Yes

Please offer any suggestions you may have to improve this questionnaire.          My wife and I wrote a book, a few after our daughters dead. It was at one time edited so more of the the unexplainable event came in the book too. For some quite years it was a free book on the internet. When I moved to Thailand there were not so many visitor on the site anymore, so I let it go out.  You can read it by clicking here Janne "Beyond Life"